Luckey
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As this documentary film unfolds, viewers are drawn into an intimate family struggle. Tom Luckey is coping with recent and dramatic changes in his life. Handsome, outgoing, and wildly creative, Tom approaches life with utter abandon. A builder of interactive art, he has spent his career making furniture that was more inclined toward sculpture than function, wooden merry-go-rounds that he hauled into Central Park, and enormous sculptures for children to climb.
Then at age 65, Tom tumbles through a window in his bathroom and lands on the floor of the tiled dining room a story below. He damages his second vertebra and becomes paralyzed below his neck. Tom spends months in rehab. When he emerges he can move only his head, but his verve is much the same. He wants to get on with life and finish the enormous climbable sculpture he had been commissioned to build at the Boston Children's Museum prior to his accident.
Tom enlists the help of his son Spencer. As they build the sculpture and try to forge a working relationship from a complex father-son relationship, both push for their own vision. Their rivalry is creative - they argue over art, design, and execution - but they are also reeling emotionally because of Tom's accident. Add into the mix tom's wife, Ettie. She and Tom had a passionate marriage, but the accident changed that. She and Spencer (Tom's son from his first marriage) have never gotten along, but are now Tom's primary caretakers.
In the course of the film, through moments of anger, joy, and breathtaking ego, the sculpture is built. From trying to re-spark his romantic life with Ettie to keeping his work going with Spencer, Tom wrestles with his new condition as a paralyzed person. The implementation of Tom's artistic vision while maintaining independence and sanity becomes a tricky balance for all involved. LUCKEY is a portrait of a family in crisis and one man's effort to create a new life in the wake of a devastating accident.
'[LUCKEY] gets to the heart of what a health crisis does to a family and how 'quality of life' is about much more than physical care and comfort, but about the spirit and imagination as well.' -Belinda Acosta, Austin Chronicle
'Laura Longsworth's documentary is about two type-A personalities battling bitterly across a generational divide, wrestling questions of authorship, art, and hardware to the ground.' -Ty Burr, Boston Globe
'LUCKEY is a classy, engrossing documentary.' -Gerald Peary, The Boston Phoenix
Citation
Main credits
Longsworth, Laura (film director)
Longsworth, Laura (film producer)
Luckey, Ettie (interviewee)
Luckey, Spencer (interviewee)
Luckey, Tom (interviewee)
Other credits
Editor, Jean Dunoyer; cinematographby by Stephen McCarthy, Ann Johnson Prum; music by John Kusiak and P. Andrew Willis.
Distributor subjects
Architecture; Art; Closed Captioned; Disabilities; Family Relations; Fanlight Collection; Health Care Issues; Health IssuesKeywords
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[sil.]
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[music]
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I met Ettie 26 years ago.
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When we first started going out together,
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I told Ettie there are gonna be
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highs and there are gonna be lows. You
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run up a tab, and then you pay it off.
That\'s the way
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life works. And Ettie said, \"That
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is total bullshit.\" She said,
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\"We\'re gonna get high, and we\'re
gonna stay high. You know,
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we\'re never coming down.\" I was wrong.
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Well, I don\'t know
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about that. We\'ll see. Give us a chance.
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Give us. Oh, I am. I am. I\'m
hanging in there right with
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ya. I have been ever since
the second you fell.
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As they were putting him in the ambulance, we
looked at each other and said, \"We\'re gonna do,
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we\'re on a new trip here. We\'re,
we\'re gonna have a new life.\"
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I was considered the worlds\'
greatest children\'s
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climbing sculpture maker.
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I\'d maybe done a couple of dozen, and I\'d
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worked twenty years.
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And then I fell. I always
forget that he\'s paralyzed,
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and then I see him again. I\'m,
I don\'t know that I\'m ever,
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I\'m kind of, I don\'t know that I\'m
ever gonna get used to it. It doesn\'t,
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it\'s just, so, so often
just doesn\'t seem real.
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When the accident happened,
it really looked to
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me like his company was in a freefall.
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The one thing he has
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is his mind, and even though he
can\'t build the models, the idea
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is to have them sent through the computer,
and his son Spencer\'s been helping
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him with that. I think it ought to just go down to the
ground. Well, I guess we just disagree, but that\'s OK.
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I can\'t deny it, I mean, it\'s a
tremendous opportunity. And it\'s
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complicated because, you know, now he finds himself
in this compromising situation, where he\'s
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gotta deal with his son
as a sort of a, almost
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a quasi boss. There\'s a lot of times when I
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still can\'t believe this is happening.
There\'s still
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a big part of me is still in denial.
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It\'s been over a year, and I still
have flashes where I\'m thinking,
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\"How do I get used to who I am now?\"
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[sil.]
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Oh, look. There\'s the boat. Here we are.
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There\'s Captain Doug. How
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exactly is this gonna work? We\'re
gonna get you out to here,
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and then boot you into the boat. That\'s
the plan. This is gonna be tricky.
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When you fall on your head
at 65, you\'re constantly
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calculating whether you\'ve
been screwed or not,
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whether you\'ve been gypped out of some
of the few good years you have left.
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OK, Tommy. Are we ready? Or whether
there\'s some sort of balancing
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act in the sky that\'s making the paralyzed
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years great years too. [music]
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I\'m finding that it\'s not all that bad.
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There\'s a lot about me that feels the same.
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There\'s a lot about me that\'s changing.
But there was a lot about me
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that probably needed to change.
And this has precipitated
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a whole new life. This is gonna be hard.
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Shut up.
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[music]
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Sweet. Tip that down so
that I see the actual
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lightening bolt. Oh, yeah.
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When you varnish it, everything gets much
more intense. That\'s about as much orange
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as you want. It\'s actually much easier for us
to demonstrate how we put the lightening bolt
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on. Now, you\'ve got to be very careful.
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This, uh, only works if it\'s perfect. OK,
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so just keep tipping it up a little bit more.
If you think about a climber as like an
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armature for kids
interacting and playing and
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exploring, then the kids
become part of the sculpture.
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And I think it gets to be like
a work of art at that point
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. It\'s completely unpredictable.
It\'s constantly changing.
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So if you tip that model up, there it is.
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The prevailing shape of this thing, when it\'s all
said and done, is almost impossible to predict.
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The Boston installation is gonna be a
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huge challenge. It\'s a gigantic sculpture.
It\'s 30 feet
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high, and that\'s as tall
as a good sized tree.
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It\'s gonna be incredibly complicated.
Well, and the other thing it\'s missing
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are the kids. And the kids, you know,
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sort of giggling and bouncing
around in this thing. It\'s really
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the whole point of the
thing in the first place.
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[music]
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We are, right now, in the
middle of the most significant
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project of this museum
in the last 30 years.
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We are renovating 40,000 square feet
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of exhibit spaces. We\'ve got a
20,000 square foot addition
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coming. When we were starting
our planning process
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for the, the addition, we knew
that we wanted to have a new
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climbing structure. We thought
Tom\'s work was really beautiful,
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and that it was gonna be a great
experience to work with him.
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We were pretty far into the process
when Tom had his accident.
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I knew
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that Tom had a son who had a degree
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in architecture. I knew that Spencer had
worked with him on other projects, and
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within a few months there was
some inkling that Spencer might
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have a role in the project.
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Hi Tom. Hi Gail. How you doin?
Hey Spencer, you\'re here.
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How\'s it going? The staff did
a hard hat tour last week,
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and I saw how tight some
of the tolerances are.
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Schwaz, the chair doesn\'t work.
What\'s going on?
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[sil.]
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So, what do you think about
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this zone? Is it more or
less what you expected?
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I don\'t know. I mean this is. I\'m used
to looking at it from, like, out here
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somewhere. There\'s like this filial
duty involved in what I\'m up to.
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Do you want to see it from upstairs?
Oh, yeah. OK. Are the brakes on?
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No, it just weighs like 500 pounds.
If his company failed
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in the wake of his accident, and he were left staring
at the ceiling, I don\'t think he would last very
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long. Top of the climb, Tom. See
what the kids are gonna see
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looking back down. Oh my god.
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We\'re way up here. Yeah. Yeah, this...
Don\'t you think that\'s gonna be
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terrifying? Yes. That\'s why
they\'re gonna love it.
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This all makes me very nervous. This is where the
rubber meets the road, you know. That\'s right.
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And, uh, yeah I
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should tell Jack also that I wanna
measurement from the corner of that stair.
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As long as these things are where your computer model is showing
them to be. That, you see that\'s the critical question.
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Right. Spencer is really
stepping up to the plate,
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and basically what he\'s
doing is saving my ass.
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Ready? Go. It\'s kind of a little bit
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fucked up, but we\'ll see. You
think it\'s narrower than we?
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I don\'t know. It\'s like the
virtual world that has, is so
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dimentiony. They\'re talking about
opening this museum April 1st. April
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1st? Perfect. That\'s when we may be due.
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Yeah, so it\'s all gonna come in hot, fast.
Just the way we like it.
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We\'re just condensing the excitement.
I\'ve always had a
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sense that I was better at making things
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than anybody I\'ve ever met
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. I built a completely
upholstered living room.
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I built a rolling bedroom.
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When I met him, he was building
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staircases. I built a
staircase that turns into a
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slide. I gradually got to the point where
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I just thought you can\'t saddle
people with stuff this crazy,
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ask them to pay you, put it in their
house, and it\'s screwing up their life.
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I just got the feeling
that I was much more of a
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sculptor than an architect, and
that it was a mistake to try and
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make sculpture out of
people\'s furniture. People
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didn\'t live that way. Kids just got to be
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the logical client because
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they love stuff that\'s crazy, and they
love stuff that doesn\'t make any sense.
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And then one night, in New York
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City, City at this restaurant
we used to go to, um, he
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started drawing a climber on a napkin.
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He would get an idea
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and have a vision. And it would be complete.
It would be the whole thing figured out,
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down to details. He just
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would see things and have
to build them. [music]
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That\'s a kind of sculpture where
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people actually become part
of the piece of art. And the
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whole thing comes to life
when it\'s full of kids.
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You\'ve got to be working out
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on the edge of what you understand.
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You have to take tremendous risks.
When you\'re
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looking at a piece of art,
you\'ve got to feel the guy
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taking the risk. So, my father
bought this house back in the 70\'s.
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Here\'s ground floor level,
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and then there\'s this rock
that goes up like that. And,
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his solution to this miniscule back
yard, kinda useless back yard, was to
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co-opt it for the house. So, he
built the house across here.
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So, it was a big kind of solarium,
really beautiful space.
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And, since the back wall of the house
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was removed, there was
no need for any sashes
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in these windows up here, so
they were just open holes.
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It was 4:30 in the
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morning. Walked into the bathroom.
My father
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was standing there taking a leak,
and all the blood went to his
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prostate, and he fainted.
I thought a car had
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come crashing through the house.
I ran out into the hall, and
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saw the bathroom light on. And I went
into the bathroom, and he wasn\'t there.
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And, um, I knew, I knew what had happened.
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And he fell out the window onto his head.
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So, I ran downstairs and, um,
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there was this mess of glass
and blood, and this body
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stretched out. Uh, head cracked open.
And, um, I
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just got down to him and I said, \"Are you
alive?\" And he, you know, he somehow
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sort of said, \"Yes.\" When
I was in the ICU, I was
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so out of it. I was treating the
whole thing like a big joke,
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some kind of huge cosmic joke.
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And,
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a lot of people thought
it was just amazing.
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My attitude was so positive, but I
think that the reason it was positive
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, was cause I wasn\'t really
confronting anything.
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The spinal cord
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is made of thousands and thousands of nerves
that carry information from the brain
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down to every area in our
body below that level.
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This right here, is the level where he had the
fracture and the cord compression. And you
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can see the cord compression
resulting in a change in how that
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spinal cord appears. The signals that
the brain needs to send down, to
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move our extremities, is blocked
resulting in paralysis.
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That\'s how he became a quadriplegic.
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Undone by his own disrespect for the code.
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About four
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days before that, he was walking
around in the pasture at his
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house, and I took a picture of Tom.
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All I can think of is
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that his creativity is somehow bound
up with keeping himself at some kind
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of an edge.
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There\'s always something
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really exciting, really dramatic,
maybe borderline stressful,
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but also really fun going
on in that house. They\'re
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both really easily bored.
Maybe he was about to hit a
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boredom spell, \'cause he decided to fall
out a window and make things not boring.
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I didn\'t realize that it was this muddy
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right here. OK, give it a burst. I was
really worried about my mom, actually.
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It\'s really tough on her. She really had no
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one to be around her all the time and
say, \"How are you?\" as opposed to \"Oh,
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how\'s Tom?\" It\'s not happening. Let me
just go get Walker. Just push Walker.
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Ready. OK.
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It won\'t go. Press the thing.
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Oh my god.
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Thank you, Walker.
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You OK? We\'re out of here. It\'s time.
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You\'re gonna get cold. Ma,
I don\'t need to be pushed.
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Who I am is very different from who I was.
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I pledge allegiance
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to the flag of the United
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States of America.
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And
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to the... Part of me was this ring master.
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Now listen. It\'s a tradition.
Every year we have a
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tug of war. The time has
come for the tug of war.
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[sil.]
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The front porch became kind
of a stage, and the yard
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became this huge audience. And
we\'d put on this elaborate,
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all afternoon, shows.
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It always just gone happily along,
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oblivious and absolutely careless.
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[music]
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Who I was, every day, it gets more distant.
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I prayed to heal. I very specifically pray
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that my spinal cord will heal.
00:19:45.000 --> 00:19:53.000
[music] Our deadline for the
00:20:20.000 --> 00:20:24.999
Boston climber, when they actually want me to be done,
happens to fall right around the time of the birth of
00:20:25.000 --> 00:20:29.999
my first child. We know it\'s got five fingers on
each hand. Look at that, that\'s him making a fist.
00:20:30.000 --> 00:20:34.999
I think it\'s a boy. Plus, my wife
wants to take her last vacation
00:20:35.000 --> 00:20:39.999
before she loses all of her liberty.
And then she wants a few fundamental
00:20:40.000 --> 00:20:44.999
home improvement nesting type
operations performed on the house.
00:20:45.000 --> 00:20:49.999
I, I\'ve only gotten two phone
calls in my life that were at
00:20:50.000 --> 00:20:54.999
that particular hour. One was cause my grandmother
died, and the other was cause my father
00:20:55.000 --> 00:20:59.999
fell and hit his head. And they called me from
the hospital. At like 5:30 in the morning.
00:21:00.000 --> 00:21:04.999
Yeah, it was one of those things
where the phone rang and, um,
00:21:05.000 --> 00:21:09.999
you just sort of, like, knew there was
something strange at the other end.
00:21:10.000 --> 00:21:14.999
I remember getting so, we were
like so pumped up and over tired
00:21:15.000 --> 00:21:19.999
about our wedding and crazy. Yeah, we
were getting married the next day.
00:21:20.000 --> 00:21:24.999
[music]
00:21:25.000 --> 00:21:29.999
And we had, like, 220 people
or something, coming.
00:21:30.000 --> 00:21:34.999
And there\'s no way in earth that
all those people could know and
00:21:35.000 --> 00:21:39.999
turn around and go home. I mean,
it\'s just, just wasn\'t possible.
00:21:40.000 --> 00:21:48.000
[sil.] There\'s a, um, empty seat here,
00:22:00.000 --> 00:22:04.999
where my father would be sitting tonight.
So, I\'d like you all to
00:22:05.000 --> 00:22:09.999
just kind of bow your heads and
just say a little prayer for him,
00:22:10.000 --> 00:22:14.999
so, you know, we can feel
our, our collective energy.
00:22:15.000 --> 00:22:19.999
[sil.]
00:22:20.000 --> 00:22:24.999
What Dad and I are going through is what
00:22:25.000 --> 00:22:29.999
marriage is all about. In every great
00:22:30.000 --> 00:22:34.999
relationship, it only gets
greater with something like
00:22:35.000 --> 00:22:39.999
this. So, you guys, do it.
00:22:40.000 --> 00:22:44.999
And he is here guys, he\'s here!
00:22:45.000 --> 00:22:49.999
The doctor
00:22:50.000 --> 00:22:54.999
who operated on my father gave it
to me pretty straight. What did
00:22:55.000 --> 00:22:59.999
he say? He said your father is a
very, very sick man. And, um,
00:23:00.000 --> 00:23:04.999
he\'ll be lucky to survive.
00:23:05.000 --> 00:23:09.999
Spencer didn\'t know what to
do when Dad fell. How do I
00:23:10.000 --> 00:23:14.999
fix it for Dad? How do I fix Dad? So
I think that\'s, my interpretation
00:23:15.000 --> 00:23:19.999
\'s is that\'s part of what\'s going on, is
trying to fix something that\'s not fixable.
00:23:20.000 --> 00:23:24.999
But, maybe making peace with it.
00:23:25.000 --> 00:23:29.999
When my folks split up, there was
sort of like this collective
00:23:30.000 --> 00:23:34.999
decision that he would raise me.
I think my father,
00:23:35.000 --> 00:23:39.999
it blew his mind that he got divorced, and
at the same time, it was such an obvious
00:23:40.000 --> 00:23:44.999
decision that needed to be made. I mean, it was
a, at that point, it was just a relationship
00:23:45.000 --> 00:23:49.999
that was going down the tubes.
And, through that, my brother
00:23:50.000 --> 00:23:54.999
and I also, on some level, got divorced.
So, Spencer lived
00:23:55.000 --> 00:23:59.999
with me, and Owen lived with Betsy.
Everybody was getting divorced.
00:24:00.000 --> 00:24:04.999
So all these kids are running around with, like,
one or two, one parent home. And people were
00:24:05.000 --> 00:24:09.999
in each others beds, and it was just,
it was very sort of late 70\'s.
00:24:10.000 --> 00:24:14.999
It was just amusing to be over at my father\'s
house. He was always around, you know,
00:24:15.000 --> 00:24:19.999
He, he never had a job, so if we wanted
make little things out of matches
00:24:20.000 --> 00:24:24.999
and blow them up, he\'d sort of be around.
They got into
00:24:25.000 --> 00:24:29.999
a very co-dependent relationship
very early on. Spencer\'s a caretaker
00:24:30.000 --> 00:24:34.999
for my father in a lot
of ways, and still is.
00:24:35.000 --> 00:24:39.999
Those were unbelievably tough years.
00:24:40.000 --> 00:24:44.999
That\'s when I got really really close.
I was so
00:24:45.000 --> 00:24:49.999
close to him that I realized that
if something happened to him,
00:24:50.000 --> 00:24:54.999
I\'d have to kill myself, because I
wouldn\'t have been able to stand
00:24:55.000 --> 00:24:59.999
the pain. We had the most amazing
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:04.999
courtship. It was an old boyfriend
who introduced me. And, I
00:25:05.000 --> 00:25:09.999
fell in love with her before she turned
around. And by three o\'clock in the morning,
00:25:10.000 --> 00:25:14.999
we were dancing the polka down in
Greenwich Village, and we never
00:25:15.000 --> 00:25:19.999
split up from that day on.
00:25:20.000 --> 00:25:28.000
[sil.]
00:25:30.000 --> 00:25:34.999
It took four years of hard charging to get
00:25:35.000 --> 00:25:39.999
Ettie to marry me. Four years
00:25:40.000 --> 00:25:44.999
later, we had Kit, and then four
years after that we had Walker.
00:25:45.000 --> 00:25:49.999
Ettie and Spencer have been at each other\'s
00:25:50.000 --> 00:25:54.999
throats ever since Ettie
and I got together because
00:25:55.000 --> 00:25:59.999
she moved into his territory. He\'s always
00:26:00.000 --> 00:26:04.999
resented her, and she\'s
always resented him. And I\'m
00:26:05.000 --> 00:26:09.999
in the middle.
00:26:10.000 --> 00:26:14.999
He comes to the shop every afternoon, gets
dropped off by somebody, usually Ettie.
00:26:15.000 --> 00:26:19.999
We\'ve never spent more time together,
00:26:20.000 --> 00:26:24.999
probably since I was, like, three.
We spent a lot of time together.
00:26:25.000 --> 00:26:29.999
We\'re going to resolve the
issues surrounding the St. Louis
00:26:30.000 --> 00:26:34.999
climber proposal. In addition to Boston,
00:26:35.000 --> 00:26:39.999
we\'re working on a project for
Houston, Phoenix, Greenville,
00:26:40.000 --> 00:26:44.999
South Carolina, and St. Louis.
You know what I\'d love to try,
00:26:45.000 --> 00:26:49.999
is making all the stars flat. Oh, no.
Terrible idea. Well,
00:26:50.000 --> 00:26:54.999
I just want to try it. Why?
I just don\'t see the point.
00:26:55.000 --> 00:26:59.999
Spencer and I, we have
good days and bad days.
00:27:00.000 --> 00:27:04.999
It\'s much more difficult now
than it was before we were
00:27:05.000 --> 00:27:09.999
trying to, you know, work out a partnership
with each other. No, no, no, no,
00:27:10.000 --> 00:27:14.999
no, no. Hold it. Hold it. Stop.
Go to hell. No, put them
00:27:15.000 --> 00:27:19.999
in space. No, no, no. There\'s no way
that they can work if you put them
00:27:20.000 --> 00:27:24.999
space. Alright, then hang, hang. We\'re
not hanging things. And we\'re not
00:27:25.000 --> 00:27:29.999
putting them by their points, either. Oh, yeah.
You\'ve got it. No. Please, for me, do it.
00:27:30.000 --> 00:27:34.999
Just for me, do it. It\'s an absurdity.
It\'s utterly
00:27:35.000 --> 00:27:39.999
absurd. I don\'t care. Just do it.
Please. No, no, no. Yeah.
00:27:40.000 --> 00:27:44.999
I\'m serious. Well, so am I. Now look at it.
You can\'t get to it,
00:27:45.000 --> 00:27:49.999
Dad. Wait, put it back out there.
Let me just finish my thought. OK.
00:27:50.000 --> 00:27:54.999
Of all the things that you insisted upon
00:27:55.000 --> 00:27:59.999
that we do for the Boston climber, putting all
the pieces on their points promises to be
00:28:00.000 --> 00:28:04.999
the single biggest pain in the fucking ass.
OK. You know why?
00:28:05.000 --> 00:28:09.999
Can we put a moon on the point?
00:28:10.000 --> 00:28:14.999
Answer. We\'re, we\'re talking
about two, two or three stars
00:28:15.000 --> 00:28:19.999
and one moon. I asked you a question. Yeah,
00:28:20.000 --> 00:28:24.999
I don\'t know. I don\'t want to, I just, I
just want to see it. Just begging you
00:28:25.000 --> 00:28:29.999
to let me see it. This is nonsense.
00:28:30.000 --> 00:28:34.999
This is just, it\'s total nonsense.
My eye is
00:28:35.000 --> 00:28:39.999
telling me that it, it
makes a huge difference.
00:28:40.000 --> 00:28:44.999
Well, you haven\'t even,
00:28:45.000 --> 00:28:49.999
you haven\'t even tried it the other way,
so what difference does it make? You\'re
00:28:50.000 --> 00:28:54.999
right.
00:28:55.000 --> 00:28:59.999
Ouch. This is my life.
00:29:00.000 --> 00:29:04.999
And, um,
00:29:05.000 --> 00:29:09.999
this is what\'s happening.
This is how I design.
00:29:10.000 --> 00:29:14.999
I used to design by myself,
and I just did what I did.
00:29:15.000 --> 00:29:19.999
But, now I do this. And, um,
00:29:20.000 --> 00:29:24.999
and it\'s very hard.
00:29:25.000 --> 00:29:29.999
It\'s very difficult.
00:29:30.000 --> 00:29:34.999
[music]
00:29:35.000 --> 00:29:39.999
I don\'t mind dialog, but I do mind
the arguing. And he berates Tom,
00:29:40.000 --> 00:29:44.999
and I just, like a, like an animal, I
don\'t want to, I don\'t want to have
00:29:45.000 --> 00:29:49.999
anybody doing that to him.
We have these horrendous
00:29:50.000 --> 00:29:54.999
fights, but we also have
these big breakthroughs,
00:29:55.000 --> 00:29:59.999
by putting each other\'s feet to
the coals all the time. We do
00:30:00.000 --> 00:30:04.999
have a way of expeditiously getting right
to the meat and bones of the matter
00:30:05.000 --> 00:30:09.999
and really coming up with
some extremely great shit.
00:30:10.000 --> 00:30:14.999
If we were all lovey dovey, it
wouldn\'t come out having this
00:30:15.000 --> 00:30:19.999
sort of amazing dynamism.
Here\'s the skinny,
00:30:20.000 --> 00:30:24.999
OK. At 6:30. I, um, I got
to go to birth class,
00:30:25.000 --> 00:30:29.999
and then at six o\'clock tomorrow morning
I gotta drive up to Hartford. And I feel
00:30:30.000 --> 00:30:34.999
unhealthy. So,
00:30:35.000 --> 00:30:39.999
um, if we get into one of
our, um, uphill slogs,
00:30:40.000 --> 00:30:44.999
if I\'m basically not going
to make it to St. Louis.
00:30:45.000 --> 00:30:49.999
So, um. So, I\'m just gonna go
00:30:50.000 --> 00:30:54.999
finish. I\'m just gonna go do it.
We talked about it. You
00:30:55.000 --> 00:30:59.999
just trust me. Let\'s just
focus on just doing this job.
00:31:00.000 --> 00:31:04.999
Let\'s not, let\'s not drive the car all
over the place. Let\'s take a nice straight
00:31:05.000 --> 00:31:09.999
line if we can. I think they want
to fast track this thing. Just, I
00:31:10.000 --> 00:31:14.999
just want to do it. It\'s got to be.
I know. You have to pee on it.
00:31:15.000 --> 00:31:19.999
It\'s important. No, it\'s got to be right.
You\'ll get plenty of chances. Now I have to go,
00:31:20.000 --> 00:31:24.999
otherwise it won\'t get done at all. OK.
00:31:25.000 --> 00:31:33.000
[sil.] Until a year ago, I was
00:31:35.000 --> 00:31:39.999
running this pretty amazing company.
It was making these
00:31:40.000 --> 00:31:44.999
children\'s climbing structures,
and now, you know, I\'m,
00:31:45.000 --> 00:31:49.999
I\'m just marginalized.
00:31:50.000 --> 00:31:54.999
My wife and I are going to
go to this birthing class
00:31:55.000 --> 00:31:59.999
at, uh, five, six thirty. It\'s now five
00:32:00.000 --> 00:32:04.999
to five, and, um, I\'m not done. And,
00:32:05.000 --> 00:32:09.999
my work with my father, I go, it\'s at
00:32:10.000 --> 00:32:14.999
least half the speed, and, uh,
00:32:15.000 --> 00:32:19.999
I just, I don\'t have time for it anymore.
00:32:20.000 --> 00:32:24.999
I think this thing looks pretty cool.
That\'ll be the view from below.
00:32:25.000 --> 00:32:29.999
The hard part of this is
00:32:30.000 --> 00:32:34.999
the negotiations. His legacy
with my future. How am I
00:32:35.000 --> 00:32:39.999
gonna do that? This is his thing, you know.
00:32:40.000 --> 00:32:44.999
My biggest fear is that I\'m
gonna screw it up for him.
00:32:45.000 --> 00:32:49.999
And, um, I just
00:32:50.000 --> 00:32:54.999
can\'t do that.
00:32:55.000 --> 00:33:03.000
[sil.]
00:33:05.000 --> 00:33:09.999
My life was a lot simpler before
my father fell and hit his head.
00:33:10.000 --> 00:33:14.999
I was working at a little
architecture firm in New Haven.
00:33:15.000 --> 00:33:19.999
I went to my job five days a week.
00:33:20.000 --> 00:33:24.999
Things were very cut and dry.
00:33:25.000 --> 00:33:29.999
Now I have a guy who works
for me, who\'s 36 years old,
00:33:30.000 --> 00:33:34.999
has two kids. His wife works the night
shift at McDonald\'s. I mean, I can\'t
00:33:35.000 --> 00:33:39.999
responsibly let him go or
anything like that. I mean, he\'s
00:33:40.000 --> 00:33:44.999
dependent upon me. The rent
00:33:45.000 --> 00:33:49.999
on this place, the liability
insurance and the plywood,
00:33:50.000 --> 00:33:54.999
the whole business side
of it, I\'m just a novice.
00:33:55.000 --> 00:33:59.999
He\'s got to put
00:34:00.000 --> 00:34:04.999
this thing together. It\'s
got over 50 leaves in it,
00:34:05.000 --> 00:34:09.999
and then he has to cable the
whole thing in so, it\'s a
00:34:10.000 --> 00:34:14.999
gigantic project.
00:34:15.000 --> 00:34:19.999
If you just look at the, the model here, you
can imagine. There are so many potential
00:34:20.000 --> 00:34:24.999
collision points.
00:34:25.000 --> 00:34:29.999
Two of the
00:34:30.000 --> 00:34:34.999
pieces were mislabeled. My fault.
00:34:35.000 --> 00:34:39.999
Everything is set. It\'s too late
in the game to make a new piece,
00:34:40.000 --> 00:34:44.999
refinish it, carpet it, restain something. So that
just doesn\'t happen. So, I just moved the label.
00:34:45.000 --> 00:34:49.999
It means that two of Daddy\'s
beloved lightening bolt things,
00:34:50.000 --> 00:34:54.999
which were supposed to originate
from, from the truss pipe,
00:34:55.000 --> 00:34:59.999
um, are not. So, we just hope
that he just doesn\'t notice.
00:35:00.000 --> 00:35:08.000
[sil.]
00:35:10.000 --> 00:35:14.999
You know, I worry. I worry
about everything. It\'s a big
00:35:15.000 --> 00:35:19.999
piece of sculpture that has to be
beautiful. And then it\'s got to be safe,
00:35:20.000 --> 00:35:24.999
and it\'s got to be fun. It\'s
a pretty merciless set of
00:35:25.000 --> 00:35:29.999
conditions you have to
meet, and, um, you\'ve
00:35:30.000 --> 00:35:34.999
taken the whole thing,
the whole step beyond
00:35:35.000 --> 00:35:39.999
where I could have taken it. Well,
we don\'t know that yet. Well, I,
00:35:40.000 --> 00:35:44.999
I do. I can see it. In all humbleness, um,
00:35:45.000 --> 00:35:49.999
I think a lot of your methods made a lot
of sense. It\'s never perfect. It\'s never
00:35:50.000 --> 00:35:54.999
everything that you dreamed of.
Believe me, you\'ll leave your mark
00:35:55.000 --> 00:35:59.999
on the City of Boston. One way or
another, good or bad. Literally,
00:36:00.000 --> 00:36:04.999
literally, probably
millions of kids will go
00:36:05.000 --> 00:36:09.999
through this thing.
00:36:10.000 --> 00:36:18.000
[sil.] Are you going to eat outside?
00:36:20.000 --> 00:36:24.999
No, we\'ll all eat together.
00:36:25.000 --> 00:36:29.999
At
00:36:30.000 --> 00:36:34.999
Least let me get out of the way
before you toss the fly over.
00:36:35.000 --> 00:36:39.999
Before I fell, I was living kind of two
separate lives, and I would stop in
00:36:40.000 --> 00:36:44.999
at Spencer and Briah\'s house
pretty much every morning.
00:36:45.000 --> 00:36:49.999
I don\'t think Ettie even knew about that,
00:36:50.000 --> 00:36:54.999
because they were not really
welcome in our house. I drive
00:36:55.000 --> 00:36:59.999
Ettie nuts, because she\'s apparently
00:37:00.000 --> 00:37:04.999
, um, feverishly jealous of me.
We have a standard old,
00:37:05.000 --> 00:37:09.999
you know, stepmother, stepchild, you know,
00:37:10.000 --> 00:37:14.999
relationship, I guess. Um, I\'m wicked.
That\'s it always,
00:37:15.000 --> 00:37:19.999
that\'s how the storybooks always have it. So, I\'d
always ask him, \"Just don\'t call me stepmother.\"
00:37:20.000 --> 00:37:24.999
They\'re like, um, two fighting cocks,
00:37:25.000 --> 00:37:29.999
you know, and I\'m like a hen.
I think the best thing for me
00:37:30.000 --> 00:37:34.999
to do is to stay, sort of, as
00:37:35.000 --> 00:37:39.999
neutral as I possibly can,
and just, and, and keep
00:37:40.000 --> 00:37:44.999
them away from each other as much as I can.
So, slooge(ph), can you quad
00:37:45.000 --> 00:37:49.999
me into bed? Yup. Two. Three.
00:37:50.000 --> 00:37:54.999
Nice. OK. I\'ve got the rest.
00:37:55.000 --> 00:37:59.999
Ah. Aye-yay-yay.
00:38:00.000 --> 00:38:04.999
The spasms are just insane.
00:38:05.000 --> 00:38:09.999
The one thing that I regret is how
I have to spend most of my time
00:38:10.000 --> 00:38:14.999
as a caregiver rather than a wife.
00:38:15.000 --> 00:38:19.999
And I wish I could just toodle
on off, and, you know, do our
00:38:20.000 --> 00:38:24.999
little thing, where we used to just get in bed
together and read and whatever, you know.
00:38:25.000 --> 00:38:29.999
Uh, can\'t do that anymore, and
so, that sort of takes some
00:38:30.000 --> 00:38:34.999
of the magic out of, you know,
being, you know, husband and wife.
00:38:35.000 --> 00:38:39.999
[sil.]
00:38:40.000 --> 00:38:44.999
My mom has been given the worst blow,
00:38:45.000 --> 00:38:49.999
I think, by this.
00:38:50.000 --> 00:38:54.999
Nobody besides Walker
has any concept of how
00:38:55.000 --> 00:38:59.999
much she deals with.
00:39:00.000 --> 00:39:04.999
Perfect.
00:39:05.000 --> 00:39:09.999
I try not to show it so much, but
I am worried about him, you know,
00:39:10.000 --> 00:39:14.999
dying on me, you know or doing,
or just, you know, becoming
00:39:15.000 --> 00:39:19.999
more incapacitated or something like, I mean,
I just don\'t want life to be harder for him.
00:39:20.000 --> 00:39:28.000
[music]
00:40:25.000 --> 00:40:29.999
Just watch your toes
00:40:30.000 --> 00:40:34.999
. Make sure you watch everything, because
that could roll and get you awful quick.
00:40:35.000 --> 00:40:39.999
Yeah, the pipes got unloaded. And,
uh, it\'s going great. We\'re putting
00:40:40.000 --> 00:40:44.999
the base plate down. This guy,
00:40:45.000 --> 00:40:49.999
this iron worker guy is so great.
He\'s from northern Maine, and he\'s
00:40:50.000 --> 00:40:54.999
just, all he drinks is whiskey and beer, and
occasionally has a little bit of water.
00:40:55.000 --> 00:40:59.999
This is an amazing spot.
Be a good day out fishing,
00:41:00.000 --> 00:41:04.999
out in a boat, a couple of cold beers.
Yeah, I mean, we\'re like
00:41:05.000 --> 00:41:09.999
totally out of our element, and
look like a bunch of idiots.
00:41:10.000 --> 00:41:14.999
Uh, you could come down another
three quarters of an inch.
00:41:15.000 --> 00:41:19.999
I love you too. Thanks for calling, Dad.
It\'s E-Y,
00:41:20.000 --> 00:41:24.999
you guys. Hey. E-Y. E-Y.
00:41:25.000 --> 00:41:33.000
[music]
00:41:55.000 --> 00:41:59.999
That looks great.
00:42:00.000 --> 00:42:04.999
A little sag in the middle. A lot
of people have wanted to help
00:42:05.000 --> 00:42:09.999
. All my old friends are all builders
00:42:10.000 --> 00:42:14.999
and architects. And so, we\'re adding on
00:42:15.000 --> 00:42:19.999
a bedroom for me, a practice
room for Ettie, and a
00:42:20.000 --> 00:42:24.999
bedroom for Walker.
00:42:25.000 --> 00:42:33.000
[music] It\'s like
00:42:35.000 --> 00:42:39.999
a barn raising. And everybody
comes, and they work on this
00:42:40.000 --> 00:42:44.999
addition. And then Ettie
makes a big pot of chili.
00:42:45.000 --> 00:42:49.999
[music]
00:42:50.000 --> 00:42:54.999
Ettie is 15 years
00:42:55.000 --> 00:42:59.999
younger than I am. And she\'s
right in the middle of her life.
00:43:00.000 --> 00:43:04.999
And all of a sudden, she\'s like, you know,
00:43:05.000 --> 00:43:09.999
living her life with both
feet nailed to the floor.
00:43:10.000 --> 00:43:14.999
She\'s the one with the courage,
and she\'s the one with the guts.
00:43:15.000 --> 00:43:19.999
I\'m real tired. Uh, but
I think I\'m gonna try
00:43:20.000 --> 00:43:24.999
and find some sort of little,
you know, escape hatch.
00:43:25.000 --> 00:43:29.999
I\'m just gonna take a
little bit of a breather,
00:43:30.000 --> 00:43:34.999
if I can. You know, if
I don\'t get found out.
00:43:35.000 --> 00:43:43.000
[music]
00:44:00.000 --> 00:44:04.999
Somebody stole my pants.
But, you know what,
00:44:05.000 --> 00:44:09.999
life is full of crazy stuff, and, uh,
00:44:10.000 --> 00:44:14.999
I, at least I remembered my towel. So.
00:44:15.000 --> 00:44:19.999
Bye.
00:44:20.000 --> 00:44:28.000
[music]
00:44:35.000 --> 00:44:39.999
What I really want to do is get that,
00:44:40.000 --> 00:44:44.999
that first piece in up there. My
father\'s gonna get here, and I,
00:44:45.000 --> 00:44:49.999
I know that\'s arbitrary, but, um, I think it\'s
important that we get our first chip under our
00:44:50.000 --> 00:44:54.999
belt. Do we have those nuts? Are they in,
in the back of your truck possibly? Nope.
00:44:55.000 --> 00:44:59.999
God damn it. This is so stupid.
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:04.999
Alright, well, I guess that\'s
not gonna happen then. Alright.
00:45:05.000 --> 00:45:09.999
I\'ll pick some up. What size?
They\'re, like, three quarters, right?
00:45:10.000 --> 00:45:18.000
[sil.] See all that glass over there?
00:45:20.000 --> 00:45:24.999
That\'s where the climber\'s gonna go.
00:45:25.000 --> 00:45:33.000
[sil.] Oh my god.
00:45:35.000 --> 00:45:39.999
This is
00:45:40.000 --> 00:45:44.999
unbelievable.
00:45:45.000 --> 00:45:49.999
Congratulations, Felix.
00:45:50.000 --> 00:45:54.999
It\'s very nice to have you here. I\'ve never
built anything like this. This is beyond
00:45:55.000 --> 00:45:59.999
belief. Is it this one? This one\'s ready
00:46:00.000 --> 00:46:05.000
to go? Nice. [music]
00:46:10.000 --> 00:46:14.999
So, four A, four.
00:46:15.000 --> 00:46:19.999
Is that, that\'s that one right there.
No, it\'s that one.
00:46:20.000 --> 00:46:28.000
[music] OK, I\'m
00:46:30.000 --> 00:46:34.999
coming up.
00:46:35.000 --> 00:46:43.000
[music] Spencer\'s exactly
00:46:45.000 --> 00:46:49.999
like me. I mean, it\'s
exactly what I would do.
00:46:50.000 --> 00:46:54.999
He\'s so excited. He\'s just so involved.
00:46:55.000 --> 00:46:59.999
It might not work, huh?
Hey, pass me that maul.
00:47:00.000 --> 00:47:04.999
Oh, yeah. That\'s progress.
00:47:05.000 --> 00:47:13.000
[music]
00:47:20.000 --> 00:47:24.999
That\'s it. Put extra hardware on
it though, so that we can use it
00:47:25.000 --> 00:47:29.999
to pull this up, although
this is pretty good.
00:47:30.000 --> 00:47:34.999
Can you flip it over?
00:47:35.000 --> 00:47:39.999
[music]
00:47:40.000 --> 00:47:44.999
Ease her down.
00:47:45.000 --> 00:47:53.000
[music]
00:48:00.000 --> 00:48:04.999
So, baby, check it out. I like the
00:48:05.000 --> 00:48:09.999
darker orange. Daddy makes me
00:48:10.000 --> 00:48:14.999
a little bit nervous. I want
my husband to live forever.
00:48:15.000 --> 00:48:19.999
It\'s definitely something to
talk about a little bit more,
00:48:20.000 --> 00:48:24.999
maybe with our therapist.
So, she said she\'s
00:48:25.000 --> 00:48:29.999
gonna touch base on safety, huh? Yeah.
I\'d like to be there on that one.
00:48:30.000 --> 00:48:34.999
I\'m nervous,
00:48:35.000 --> 00:48:39.999
very nervous. That\'s what makes this
00:48:40.000 --> 00:48:44.999
so exciting, you see. There\'s
a huge element of risk.
00:48:45.000 --> 00:48:49.999
Oh my god. When it works,
00:48:50.000 --> 00:48:54.999
all you want to do is
have that feeling again,
00:48:55.000 --> 00:48:59.999
cause it feels so good.
00:49:00.000 --> 00:49:04.999
Nice.
00:49:05.000 --> 00:49:09.999
The little hole is totally matched
up perfectly. Everything\'s great.
00:49:10.000 --> 00:49:14.999
Oh. I\'m so proud of you.
00:49:15.000 --> 00:49:19.999
Oh my god.
00:49:20.000 --> 00:49:24.999
You\'re the best.
00:49:25.000 --> 00:49:33.000
[music]
00:49:40.000 --> 00:49:44.999
Feel pressure now? I don\'t
feel hardly anything.
00:49:45.000 --> 00:49:49.999
Maybe a little pressure.
They\'re pins and needles
00:49:50.000 --> 00:49:54.999
all in my head. No shit. I saw that.
Is the pageant
00:49:55.000 --> 00:49:59.999
casted? Not completely. I
know you should probably put
00:50:00.000 --> 00:50:04.999
a big note on the top of my
hat that says, \"Do not pat.
00:50:05.000 --> 00:50:09.999
Acupuncture needles.\"
00:50:10.000 --> 00:50:18.000
[music] Every Christmas
00:50:20.000 --> 00:50:24.999
we\'ve got a pageant. This year
we\'re having two Jesuses,
00:50:25.000 --> 00:50:29.999
two Marys and one Joseph.
It\'s sort of a bigamist
00:50:30.000 --> 00:50:34.999
motif. It\'ll be just fine,
00:50:35.000 --> 00:50:39.999
unless you\'re worried about being
sacrilegious. Yeah, that\'s pretty
00:50:40.000 --> 00:50:44.999
wonderful. I am getting
a little nervous about
00:50:45.000 --> 00:50:49.999
all the stuff that has to get done. OK, so
let\'s keep putting, dumping the framites(ph)
00:50:50.000 --> 00:50:54.999
in as best we can. Ettie\'s gotta find
00:50:55.000 --> 00:50:59.999
the script. I wrote the
script a while back.
00:51:00.000 --> 00:51:04.999
I mean, it\'s just right from Saint
Matthew\'s or whatever, but it\'s.
00:51:05.000 --> 00:51:09.999
I can\'t, for some reason, I
mean, it was in the Christmas,
00:51:10.000 --> 00:51:14.999
it was in the book. I kept it in the book,
and I don\'t know. Somebody else put some,
00:51:15.000 --> 00:51:19.999
started organizing. I\'ll be right back.
No, no, no. Yeah, I know.
00:51:20.000 --> 00:51:24.999
We need a narrator. We
don\'t have a pet angel.
00:51:25.000 --> 00:51:29.999
Give me ten minutes to go look for this
real quick. I\'ll be right back, OK? OK.
00:51:30.000 --> 00:51:34.999
We\'ve either got to find a
script, or we\'ve got to rewrite
00:51:35.000 --> 00:51:39.999
the whole thing from the Bible. Here we go.
He\'s tired, and I, I
00:51:40.000 --> 00:51:44.999
can just read him like a book. He was getting cold,
and sees everybody doing all this stuff that
00:51:45.000 --> 00:51:49.999
he and I used to do together all
the time here. And so, he feels
00:51:50.000 --> 00:51:54.999
left out, and he feels excluded,
you know, from the whole
00:51:55.000 --> 00:51:59.999
thing. That\'s why I just said,
\"You gotta go lie down, cause I,
00:52:00.000 --> 00:52:04.999
I can\'t afford for him to get depressed
on top. I did, I did slip him a
00:52:05.000 --> 00:52:09.999
little something just now.
Is that good? Yup.
00:52:10.000 --> 00:52:14.999
When we went to see the, um, psychiatrist,
I said, \"I gotta have something. You gotta
00:52:15.000 --> 00:52:19.999
help me out here.\" So, I have a little
stash of stuff. It\'s not very potent,
00:52:20.000 --> 00:52:24.999
but I, I think I\'ll just see if it helps him out a
little bit. It\'s a little bit of an antidepressant.
00:52:25.000 --> 00:52:29.999
So, I thought, \"You know, I\'ll try it. This
is the first time I\'ve done this. And, uh,
00:52:30.000 --> 00:52:34.999
I didn\'t tell him, just because I want to see
if the effect will, will take place without
00:52:35.000 --> 00:52:39.999
him thinking that it might or something.
Remember I\'ve got needles.
00:52:40.000 --> 00:52:44.999
I know, I know. I was being very gentle. OK, so
I\'m gonna let you chill. I\'m gonna make some, uh,
00:52:45.000 --> 00:52:49.999
pesto, so we can have it. I
wanna have it for Christmas,
00:52:50.000 --> 00:52:54.999
uh, way. So, I, I, I\'m right here,
I\'m around, but I\'m doing stuff, OK?
00:52:55.000 --> 00:52:59.999
Yup. I like this. And so it was
00:53:00.000 --> 00:53:04.999
that while they were there, the
days were accomplished that she
00:53:05.000 --> 00:53:09.999
should be delivered.
00:53:10.000 --> 00:53:14.999
Do you guys know \'Silent Night\'?
00:53:15.000 --> 00:53:19.999
OK, what you\'re gonna do is, you\'re gonna come this
way. And you\'re gonna walk all the way around,
00:53:20.000 --> 00:53:24.999
and then just stop, OK. And
the baby\'s gonna be there.
00:53:25.000 --> 00:53:33.000
[sil.] Da-da-da-da-da.
00:53:45.000 --> 00:53:49.999
Doo-doo Doo-doo.
00:53:50.000 --> 00:53:54.999
Da-da-da-da-da Doo-doo
00:53:55.000 --> 00:53:59.999
Doo-doo. Da-da-da-da
00:54:00.000 --> 00:54:04.999
Doo-doo Doo-doo. There\'re billions
00:54:05.000 --> 00:54:09.999
of unbroken spinal cord cells
00:54:10.000 --> 00:54:14.999
that are still intact, and
they just need to find new
00:54:15.000 --> 00:54:19.999
pathways. When I try and move
my toes it would be as if you
00:54:20.000 --> 00:54:24.999
were pushing down with your
toes as hard as you could,
00:54:25.000 --> 00:54:29.999
and just giving it everything I\'ve got.
00:54:30.000 --> 00:54:34.999
On. Off. On.
00:54:35.000 --> 00:54:39.999
Off. It was very noticeable.
That is so sweet.
00:54:40.000 --> 00:54:44.999
That\'s the first time I\'ve seen
it do anything like that. Yay.
00:54:45.000 --> 00:54:49.999
Typically we see most of the meaningful recovery
in spinal cord injury within the first year
00:54:50.000 --> 00:54:54.999
and a half. The fact that he is noticing
some things that we didn\'t previously
00:54:55.000 --> 00:54:59.999
notice within that first year and a
half is surprising. What that will
00:55:00.000 --> 00:55:04.999
lead to is difficult to tell at this point.
Take my right hand
00:55:05.000 --> 00:55:09.999
in your hand. Yeah, just like that.
00:55:10.000 --> 00:55:14.999
And hold it up.
00:55:15.000 --> 00:55:19.999
I think it\'s a little biceps. So, here\'s my
00:55:20.000 --> 00:55:24.999
question. Do people who are
like, ten or fifteen years out,
00:55:25.000 --> 00:55:29.999
does all this change? Do the
spasms slowly go away? Not, not
00:55:30.000 --> 00:55:34.999
frequently. You know, after about two years or
so, it is sort of a, a little bit of a steady
00:55:35.000 --> 00:55:39.999
state. Now what we do with it
is, is really the key piece.
00:55:40.000 --> 00:55:44.999
Got ya. I think we\'ve just are
00:55:45.000 --> 00:55:49.999
now realizing that this is how it\'s
gonna be. This is how life is gonna be.
00:55:50.000 --> 00:55:54.999
I think I\'ve known it all along.
I think the moment he
00:55:55.000 --> 00:55:59.999
realized it was when I think it
was probably hardest for me.
00:56:00.000 --> 00:56:08.000
[music]
00:56:15.000 --> 00:56:19.999
When I look back over the last year
00:56:20.000 --> 00:56:24.999
and a half since the accident, I\'m getting
more and more used to being paralyzed,
00:56:25.000 --> 00:56:29.999
and less and less
00:56:30.000 --> 00:56:34.999
inclined to be in denial about it.
OK. This is
00:56:35.000 --> 00:56:39.999
the first I\'ve looked at
myself in probably six months.
00:56:40.000 --> 00:56:44.999
Oy vey. I\'m more and more
excited about being alive.
00:56:45.000 --> 00:56:49.999
We literally, being alive
00:56:50.000 --> 00:56:54.999
is something that I, I weigh
00:56:55.000 --> 00:56:59.999
every day, I think. At least once
00:57:00.000 --> 00:57:04.999
every day I\'m thinking, \"You know, is this
00:57:05.000 --> 00:57:09.999
better than being dead or not?\"
00:57:10.000 --> 00:57:14.999
So what are you listening to?
00:57:15.000 --> 00:57:19.999
Parliament Let me hear what it sounds like.
00:57:20.000 --> 00:57:24.999
Turn it up.
00:57:25.000 --> 00:57:33.000
[music]
00:57:35.000 --> 00:57:39.999
How bout you? How are you doing? Alright.
Lucy\'s OK, cause I\'m holding
00:57:40.000 --> 00:57:44.999
her tight.
00:57:45.000 --> 00:57:49.999
You are gonna go crazy when you see this
00:57:50.000 --> 00:57:54.999
thing. This thing is gonna
be such a cluster fuck.
00:57:55.000 --> 00:57:59.999
Cabling chaos. And the space that\'s
00:58:00.000 --> 00:58:04.999
inside of the truss is just gorgeous.
00:58:05.000 --> 00:58:09.999
The
00:58:10.000 --> 00:58:14.999
real slog in the process
is the \"S\" hooking.
00:58:15.000 --> 00:58:19.999
It\'s kind of daunting. There\'s
like 18,000, 20,000 \"S\"
00:58:20.000 --> 00:58:24.999
hooks that need to get installed,
and, and also 18 or 20,000 feet
00:58:25.000 --> 00:58:29.999
of cable.
00:58:30.000 --> 00:58:38.000
[music]
00:58:40.000 --> 00:58:44.999
So, what time\'s your father showing up to
straighten you out? I don\'t know if he\'s
00:58:45.000 --> 00:58:49.999
ever gonna show up to straighten
me out, but, um, maybe noonish?
00:58:50.000 --> 00:58:54.999
[music]
00:58:55.000 --> 00:58:59.999
You know, Spencer. How are you?
I need more cable.
00:59:00.000 --> 00:59:04.999
Is there a place up here in Boston
that I can go? I think I\'m ultimately
00:59:05.000 --> 00:59:09.999
gonna need 5,000 feet. What do you think?
00:59:10.000 --> 00:59:14.999
Well, let me just see.
00:59:15.000 --> 00:59:19.999
Where he\'s pinching the \"S\" hooks.
00:59:20.000 --> 00:59:24.999
Yeah. There\'s a big hole. Dad, I can\'t,
00:59:25.000 --> 00:59:29.999
you can\'t come up here to micromanage. Yeah, but
look, look right where I... No, I\'m telling you
00:59:30.000 --> 00:59:34.999
. You can\'t do this to me. I showed him how to \"S\"
hook. If he fucks it up, I\'ll just have him go
00:59:35.000 --> 00:59:39.999
back. It\'s gonna, I\'m gonna go through the
whole fucking thing. You see the hole?
00:59:40.000 --> 00:59:44.999
OK.
00:59:45.000 --> 00:59:49.999
Schwaz.
00:59:50.000 --> 00:59:54.999
What. He\'s got to know. He will know.
He\'s got to know more.
00:59:55.000 --> 00:59:59.999
Who is that? It\'s Armando, Dad.
Once he crunches
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:04.999
those \"S\" hooks, it\'s a lot
harder to tighten it up.
01:00:05.000 --> 01:00:09.999
Alright. I\'ll go tell him. Well, you can
see the problem. Yeah, I know I can
01:00:10.000 --> 01:00:14.999
see the problem. I know. It\'s
not, it\'s gonna be really bad.
01:00:15.000 --> 01:00:19.999
It\'s better to stop him. I\'m gonna
stop him. Can you, will you
01:00:20.000 --> 01:00:24.999
just let it go? I\'m just telling you.
I mean, if you take
01:00:25.000 --> 01:00:29.999
that situation and add \"S\" hooks.
01:00:30.000 --> 01:00:38.000
[sil.]
01:00:40.000 --> 01:00:44.999
Mondo. Um,
01:00:45.000 --> 01:00:49.999
no hole can be bigger
than four inches. Four
01:00:50.000 --> 01:00:54.999
inches? Never more than four inches.
If you have to add more \"S\" hooks,
01:00:55.000 --> 01:00:59.999
that\'s fine. Alright? OK Thank you.
01:01:00.000 --> 01:01:04.999
OK, head. Kabesa(ph)
01:01:05.000 --> 01:01:09.999
. I talked to him.
01:01:10.000 --> 01:01:14.999
I wish things were simpler, like he
could, um, you know, he could get up
01:01:15.000 --> 01:01:19.999
and leave the room all by
himself when he and I got in a
01:01:20.000 --> 01:01:24.999
fight. But, um, you know,
01:01:25.000 --> 01:01:29.999
I mean, it\'s, it\'s one of those
weird things. Like, do you,
01:01:30.000 --> 01:01:34.999
I don\'t know. Do you guys like working with your
parents? When was the last time you even, like, raked
01:01:35.000 --> 01:01:39.999
leaves with your father?
It\'s really trying.
01:01:40.000 --> 01:01:44.999
He\'s just a really peppery, prickly
01:01:45.000 --> 01:01:49.999
person. And, uh, and I
01:01:50.000 --> 01:01:54.999
also think he\'s pretty
fragile in some ways.
01:01:55.000 --> 01:01:59.999
And I\'m sort of tiptoeing around his ego.
And it\'s driving me
01:02:00.000 --> 01:02:04.999
crazy. It\'s really unpleasant.
01:02:05.000 --> 01:02:13.000
[sil.]
01:02:15.000 --> 01:02:19.999
Ettie looks so beautiful.
01:02:20.000 --> 01:02:24.999
Wherever we go, people just
assume that she\'s my daughter,
01:02:25.000 --> 01:02:29.999
and they can\'t believe, you know, that
01:02:30.000 --> 01:02:34.999
somebody that beautiful could
be married to somebody,
01:02:35.000 --> 01:02:39.999
you know, who is sort of
as screwed up as I am.
01:02:40.000 --> 01:02:44.999
I take a kind of weird pleasure in that.
Are you about ready?
01:02:45.000 --> 01:02:49.999
You are so cute. Oh my god. This is so
01:02:50.000 --> 01:02:54.999
silly. It\'s so exciting. We\'re
going down to New York and
01:02:55.000 --> 01:02:59.999
getting on this cruise ship. Would you mind
giving, trying giving him a little shave?
01:03:00.000 --> 01:03:04.999
Yeah, sure. What do I do. That\'s the
switch, right there. Right there.
01:03:05.000 --> 01:03:09.999
And then, you just do it. It\'s intuitive.
01:03:10.000 --> 01:03:14.999
Oh, OK. It knows what to do.
I never even imagined
01:03:15.000 --> 01:03:19.999
going on a cruise. My
picture of it is it\'s like
01:03:20.000 --> 01:03:24.999
a big gigantic, disgusting, floating motel
01:03:25.000 --> 01:03:29.999
full of the most hideous people on earth.
01:03:30.000 --> 01:03:34.999
Fran, you don\'t have to shave my
01:03:35.000 --> 01:03:39.999
forehead. One of the things that
01:03:40.000 --> 01:03:44.999
I\'m hoping is gonna happen
on this cruise is that
01:03:45.000 --> 01:03:49.999
the commander in chief and I get
01:03:50.000 --> 01:03:54.999
physical. It may happen. It may not.
01:03:55.000 --> 01:03:59.999
She may need a little convincing.
01:04:00.000 --> 01:04:04.999
But, I\'m just, into it.
01:04:05.000 --> 01:04:09.999
Because I think, to, to get
01:04:10.000 --> 01:04:14.999
to where we want to get to, we have
to fall in love with each other
01:04:15.000 --> 01:04:19.999
all over again. And I think that\'s
01:04:20.000 --> 01:04:24.999
happening. It\'s gonna be brand
01:04:25.000 --> 01:04:29.999
new. It\'s gonna be a place
we\'ve never been before. So.
01:04:30.000 --> 01:04:38.000
[music]
01:05:00.000 --> 01:05:04.999
Who knows what he\'s gonna be like when he
gets back from his cruise? It\'s always
01:05:05.000 --> 01:05:09.999
sort of dynamic. Whenever
Ettie\'s got his ear, it\'s, uh,
01:05:10.000 --> 01:05:14.999
things change. So, who knows?
I could get fired.
01:05:15.000 --> 01:05:19.999
The building inspector said that
\"S\" hooks took too funky and
01:05:20.000 --> 01:05:24.999
barbed, and he said he wouldn\'t
even let his children in it. So,
01:05:25.000 --> 01:05:29.999
Jack Cameron(ph) brought in these,
uh, hog ring pliers one day,
01:05:30.000 --> 01:05:34.999
which got me thinking, there\'s such a thing
01:05:35.000 --> 01:05:39.999
as a hog ring. So, getting the
\"S\" hook out of the game was
01:05:40.000 --> 01:05:44.999
a really great thing. So, what did you have
to do? We had to remove all the \"S\" hooks.
01:05:45.000 --> 01:05:49.999
There were maybe 7,500 of them
installed, I think. It took four guys
01:05:50.000 --> 01:05:54.999
a day. Or me and three guys.
01:05:55.000 --> 01:05:59.999
You know, every once in a while it\'s
important to get in the trenches, and that
01:06:00.000 --> 01:06:04.999
was one of them. Lead the charge.
01:06:05.000 --> 01:06:09.999
Mondo got replaced by the hog ringer.
When I
01:06:10.000 --> 01:06:14.999
hired Mondo back in September, I did
so because I thought he would make a
01:06:15.000 --> 01:06:19.999
champion \"S\" hooker, and
he was pretty good. Having
01:06:20.000 --> 01:06:24.999
paid my dues with \"S\" hooks, I
just appreciate the hog rings.
01:06:25.000 --> 01:06:29.999
I wish you could
01:06:30.000 --> 01:06:34.999
go on the inside. It\'s like being in an intestine
or something. I mean, you just, you have
01:06:35.000 --> 01:06:39.999
no idea which way is up, which way is,
I mean, it\'s totally disorienting.
01:06:40.000 --> 01:06:44.999
I am so in
01:06:45.000 --> 01:06:49.999
love with Ettie. It\'s like unreal.
01:06:50.000 --> 01:06:54.999
This cruise was like a
01:06:55.000 --> 01:06:59.999
fairytale. It was so unbelievable great.
01:07:00.000 --> 01:07:04.999
I mean, before all our
wonderful memories were of
01:07:05.000 --> 01:07:09.999
before I fell. And now we\'re
starting to have wonderful memories,
01:07:10.000 --> 01:07:14.999
you know wonderful things are happening.
In the present. Yeah.
01:07:15.000 --> 01:07:19.999
God, that\'s been a long time coming.
That\'s awesome.
01:07:20.000 --> 01:07:24.999
Come on, old Max(ph).
01:07:25.000 --> 01:07:29.999
The enemy
01:07:30.000 --> 01:07:34.999
of sculpting is thinking.
01:07:35.000 --> 01:07:39.999
There\'s a way to design where
you just have these impulses.
01:07:40.000 --> 01:07:44.999
They\'re sort of beyond
thinking, but I\'m seeing it.
01:07:45.000 --> 01:07:49.999
I\'m visualizing it. It\'s sort
of moving along in front of me,
01:07:50.000 --> 01:07:54.999
but you\'ve got to get where you\'re
the kid climbing through the thing,
01:07:55.000 --> 01:07:59.999
and you\'re not thinking. You\'re living.
01:08:00.000 --> 01:08:04.999
I don\'t really like being
told what to do. I like
01:08:05.000 --> 01:08:09.999
it when we collaborate. When he comes to the
table with the idea that we\'re gonna work
01:08:10.000 --> 01:08:14.999
together, it\'s fun. But, when he comes
to the table with these things that he\'s
01:08:15.000 --> 01:08:19.999
cooked up in his head, I always feel like I\'m
dealing with a monster. That\'s about right, right?
01:08:20.000 --> 01:08:24.999
That\'s about it. Thanks for the stones.
They make a nice.
01:08:25.000 --> 01:08:29.999
Dickhead, if you\'d just waited half
a frickin\' second. Did you call me
01:08:30.000 --> 01:08:34.999
dickhead? What do you think I called you?
01:08:35.000 --> 01:08:39.999
Terrifying.
01:08:40.000 --> 01:08:44.999
But here\'s what I\'m picturing, is
01:08:45.000 --> 01:08:49.999
having the dye grid, surrounding a space
01:08:50.000 --> 01:08:54.999
frame. And the space frame is
made out of pipes. Why the
01:08:55.000 --> 01:08:59.999
space frame? The space frame is what they
climb through. It would make an incredible
01:09:00.000 --> 01:09:04.999
climber. But it would be so fucking
dangerous. Not if we do it
01:09:05.000 --> 01:09:09.999
right If we look at it. I know what I\'m talking.
You\'re talking about a situation where somebody could
01:09:10.000 --> 01:09:14.999
climb up something and then fall down
onto a bar. Maybe the bars are padded.
01:09:15.000 --> 01:09:19.999
I just think it\'s crazy. We can
work on it today. And we\'ll try
01:09:20.000 --> 01:09:24.999
to figure it out, but I just think it\'s a
bad idea, and I think it\'s a waste of time.
01:09:25.000 --> 01:09:29.999
So, Schwaz, let\'s start with piece of paper
01:09:30.000 --> 01:09:34.999
and a pencil. Draw a bunch of circles, just
01:09:35.000 --> 01:09:39.999
all over the page, OK. And
some little ones in between.
01:09:40.000 --> 01:09:44.999
I\'ve got to get him
01:09:45.000 --> 01:09:49.999
out of the design process.
It\'s just to screwy to
01:09:50.000 --> 01:09:54.999
try and design something with
somebody who\'s constantly
01:09:55.000 --> 01:09:59.999
jabbing at you. That\'s not
the way a sculptor works.
01:10:00.000 --> 01:10:04.999
He\'s got an assistant, and
the assistant is refusing
01:10:05.000 --> 01:10:09.999
to do something, then, he fires
the assistant. Hold. Dad,
01:10:10.000 --> 01:10:14.999
Dad, slow down. Stop.
01:10:15.000 --> 01:10:19.999
[sil.]
01:10:20.000 --> 01:10:24.999
Nice. Well done, Howard. Now just
01:10:25.000 --> 01:10:29.999
full speed ahead. My
picture of the future is
01:10:30.000 --> 01:10:34.999
that I design, and then the design
moves on to Spencer, and he
01:10:35.000 --> 01:10:39.999
builds it and installs it.
01:10:40.000 --> 01:10:44.999
That\'s part of that business
model, like where the Tom\'s here,
01:10:45.000 --> 01:10:49.999
he does whatever the hell he wants, and
I just stand and await his command.
01:10:50.000 --> 01:10:54.999
Um, that\'s pretty much not, you
know, it\'s untenable for me.
01:10:55.000 --> 01:10:59.999
It\'s got to get worked out
somehow so that it doesn\'t
01:11:00.000 --> 01:11:04.999
drive Ettie crazy,
01:11:05.000 --> 01:11:09.999
and it doesn\'t drive me crazy, and it doesn\'t tear the
family apart. I mean, I\'m all for it. I\'m all for
01:11:10.000 --> 01:11:14.999
them, you know, doing this, as
long as it\'s not destructive.
01:11:15.000 --> 01:11:19.999
Cause he can\'t take it. He really
is too fragile to take that
01:11:20.000 --> 01:11:24.999
destruction now in his life.
Uh, and I\'m way
01:11:25.000 --> 01:11:29.999
too fragile too.
01:11:30.000 --> 01:11:34.999
[sil.]
01:11:35.000 --> 01:11:39.999
Your son\'s calmed down a little
bit in the last week or so. He
01:11:40.000 --> 01:11:44.999
was nervous as hell. This is a high risk
business. And he\'s got a kid coming.
01:11:45.000 --> 01:11:49.999
I know. Is that gonna be your first
grandchild? That\'ll be my third.
01:11:50.000 --> 01:11:54.999
I\'m thinking it\'s a boy. Carry the
family name on. That\'s right. Yup.
01:11:55.000 --> 01:11:59.999
And I hope that kid aggravates the shit right out of him.
Yeah. Give him a little sense of direction. Well, as it is,
01:12:00.000 --> 01:12:04.999
he\'ll probably aggravate
the shit out of the kid.
01:12:05.000 --> 01:12:09.999
He gets wound up. I\'ll be in touch.
Take her easy.
01:12:10.000 --> 01:12:14.999
Alright. Keep on doing this. You, you got
a do a little bit with your organization.
01:12:15.000 --> 01:12:19.999
I know. You do a little bit with that, and it\'ll save you a
lot of money. And when you go to do one of these jobs...
01:12:20.000 --> 01:12:24.999
Figure out how much cable I think I\'m gonna use. If
you need 20,000 feet of cable, get it before you
01:12:25.000 --> 01:12:29.999
start it, and then you\'ll save money. My
bookkeeper is gonna read me the riot act,
01:12:30.000 --> 01:12:34.999
I\'m sure. You got a good start. Just tweak
it a little bit, and you\'ll be alright.
01:12:35.000 --> 01:12:39.999
Well you can hear the vacuuming
going on in the background,
01:12:40.000 --> 01:12:44.999
the sweet music of vacuuming.
And the hog ringer,
01:12:45.000 --> 01:12:49.999
hog ringing to victory.
How many hog rings are
01:12:50.000 --> 01:12:54.999
there in this thing, Felix?
40,000 It\'s basically beautiful.
01:12:55.000 --> 01:12:59.999
So, let\'s go. OK, let\'s go home.
01:13:00.000 --> 01:13:08.000
[music] Come on, my man.
01:13:20.000 --> 01:13:24.999
[music] Oh, Kabesa.
01:13:25.000 --> 01:13:29.999
This is baby Clyde. Oh, he\'s
01:13:30.000 --> 01:13:34.999
just the cutest, sweetest. [music]
01:13:35.000 --> 01:13:43.000
He looks
01:13:50.000 --> 01:13:54.999
like a little elf.
01:13:55.000 --> 01:13:59.999
[music]
01:14:00.000 --> 01:14:08.000
[sil.]
01:14:15.000 --> 01:14:19.999
This is terrible to say,
01:14:20.000 --> 01:14:24.999
but it\'s true. He\'s not
really capable of partnership
01:14:25.000 --> 01:14:29.999
. Obviously my biggest
01:14:30.000 --> 01:14:34.999
bargaining chip is my success in Boston.
01:14:35.000 --> 01:14:39.999
Five, four, three, two, one.
It\'s nine o\'clock. Yay.
01:14:40.000 --> 01:14:48.000
[sil.]
01:15:10.000 --> 01:15:14.999
Hi, Daddy.
01:15:15.000 --> 01:15:19.999
It\'s so fun. Thomas is
showing me how to get to the
01:15:20.000 --> 01:15:24.999
tippety top.
01:15:25.000 --> 01:15:29.999
You are way up high. Daddy, I\'m way up
01:15:30.000 --> 01:15:34.999
high. Are you members? We\'re, we\'re the
guys that made that climber. Oh, OK.
01:15:35.000 --> 01:15:39.999
Oh my god. Oh, yes.
01:15:40.000 --> 01:15:48.000
[music] Schwaz,
01:16:00.000 --> 01:16:04.999
it\'s just, it\'s so great.
01:16:05.000 --> 01:16:09.999
What you\'ve done is so great.
What we\'ve done. What
01:16:10.000 --> 01:16:14.999
you\'ve done. We.
01:16:15.000 --> 01:16:23.000
[music] It\'s so great.
01:16:30.000 --> 01:16:34.999
There is no way I could have gotten through
01:16:35.000 --> 01:16:39.999
the last year and a half, and
held my business together
01:16:40.000 --> 01:16:44.999
without Spencer. I owe him a huge
01:16:45.000 --> 01:16:49.999
debt, and I tried as hard as I could
01:16:50.000 --> 01:16:54.999
to collaborate. But,
01:16:55.000 --> 01:16:59.999
I\'m a solo artist. I\'m a sculptor.
01:17:00.000 --> 01:17:04.999
[music]
01:17:05.000 --> 01:17:09.999
I thought I could step in, take the reins
01:17:10.000 --> 01:17:14.999
, and, um,
01:17:15.000 --> 01:17:19.999
and help my father out. And
then, you know, and, and
01:17:20.000 --> 01:17:24.999
we would be back in our little sailboat.
Father and son, having
01:17:25.000 --> 01:17:29.999
their little time. That\'s
what it was all about
01:17:30.000 --> 01:17:34.999
for me in a lot of ways.
01:17:35.000 --> 01:17:43.000
[music]
01:17:45.000 --> 01:17:49.999
Ettie wants him to go to Chicago
for this convention, which is just
01:17:50.000 --> 01:17:54.999
nuts. Schwaz, this is gonna be
01:17:55.000 --> 01:17:59.999
a chance to see hundreds of
children\'s museum people,
01:18:00.000 --> 01:18:04.999
all in one whack. And it\'s by
far the most efficient way to
01:18:05.000 --> 01:18:09.999
sell what we do through a huge market.
So, are you wearing your tie?
01:18:10.000 --> 01:18:14.999
No, sir.
01:18:15.000 --> 01:18:19.999
If you have to do that at the, the thing, at the,
at the thing today, can you, can you just like
01:18:20.000 --> 01:18:24.999
go in a corner and do that? No spit much.
You know, I think these are his
01:18:25.000 --> 01:18:29.999
last years. They could be his greatest
years of designing. You\'re so attractive.
01:18:30.000 --> 01:18:34.999
I\'m just hoping that these years
01:18:35.000 --> 01:18:39.999
can be just joyous for him.
01:18:40.000 --> 01:18:44.999
Chicago. Chicago. Ba-da-ba-da-boo
01:18:45.000 --> 01:18:49.999
ba-da-ba-da-boo. It\'s just
an all quad, all the time,
01:18:50.000 --> 01:18:54.999
trip to Chicago. All these people will be
01:18:55.000 --> 01:18:59.999
completely blown away to see him. But,
on the other hand, I\'ll be basically be
01:19:00.000 --> 01:19:04.999
his nurse for the day. Shit,
did we just miss that
01:19:05.000 --> 01:19:09.999
exit? Oh, Jesus. OK, I know this shortcut.
Take Pockronock(ph)
01:19:10.000 --> 01:19:14.999
exit. How can that possibly be a shortcut?
This highway leads
01:19:15.000 --> 01:19:19.999
directly... This is, no... directly.
There are no turns.
01:19:20.000 --> 01:19:24.999
It goes straight to the airport. You
cannot take a more direct route.
01:19:25.000 --> 01:19:29.999
The thing with Spencer is, uh, really
01:19:30.000 --> 01:19:34.999
complicated. I\'ve got to somehow figure out
01:19:35.000 --> 01:19:39.999
how to save what\'s good about
it, because what\'s good
01:19:40.000 --> 01:19:44.999
about it produced that sculpture in Boston.
01:19:45.000 --> 01:19:49.999
It\'s the best thing I\'ve ever
done, so how can I just,
01:19:50.000 --> 01:19:54.999
you know, walk away from that?
01:19:55.000 --> 01:19:59.999
My big plan is to start
01:20:00.000 --> 01:20:04.999
making sculptures that
have accessibility so that
01:20:05.000 --> 01:20:09.999
people with disabilities can get
01:20:10.000 --> 01:20:14.999
completely involved in what the
able bodied kids are doing.
01:20:15.000 --> 01:20:19.999
Hi. I\'m here with my father, Tom Luckey.
He\'s a quadriplegic.
01:20:20.000 --> 01:20:24.999
I think he needs to check his chair.
We\'re getting on a 6:40 flight.
01:20:25.000 --> 01:20:29.999
It has the possibility of being
really great, it\'s just, uh,
01:20:30.000 --> 01:20:34.999
you know, we have to kind of
practice being nice to each other.
01:20:35.000 --> 01:20:39.999
And I will develop the habit
of being nice to each other.
01:20:40.000 --> 01:20:44.999
He\'s my old man. I love the guy.
01:20:45.000 --> 01:20:49.999
I think that we both went to the edge
01:20:50.000 --> 01:20:54.999
of the cliff and looked over the cliff.
And I think both of us saw
01:20:55.000 --> 01:20:59.999
a deep dark hole.
01:21:00.000 --> 01:21:04.999
I could pull out of this
thing, and probably
01:21:05.000 --> 01:21:09.999
make it somehow, but it
just wouldn\'t be nearly
01:21:10.000 --> 01:21:14.999
as much fun, nearly as cool.
01:21:15.000 --> 01:21:20.000
[music]
