PicturePerfect
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We are barraged by media images that unrealistically glamorize and sexualize women and girls. This lively and engaging film explores the impact these messages have on young women's physical, psychological and emotional health. Through the voices of a racially and culturally diverse group of women and girls, PicturePerfect examines the interplay of race and ethnicity, body image, dieting and eating disorders, and the early influence of toys and cartoons. It offers tools to begin dissecting and questioning the media that influence our behaviors, attitudes, and values.
The contrasts between how these women see themselves and the highly idealized imagery that dominates TV and print advertising are particularly stark. Yet their comments also reveal the conflicting responses we have to the media and consumer culture how we participate in and resist it at the same time. Suitable for a wide range of ages and audiences, PicturePerfect is an outstanding discussion starter, and will be an invaluable educational tool for families, as well as for schools, universities, social service agencies, scouting and other youth groups, religious organizations, and others.
Producer Carol Tizzano is available to speak at screenings of PicturePerfect, and offers consultation and presentations on a wide range of media topics for adults and young people. Contact her through PicturePerfect Productions.
'One of the best videos I've seen on how girls and women are represented and influenced by popular media. It's like listening in on what these very real but especially insightful girls and women have to say about our current culture and values.' - Tamar Sobel, Girls, Women + Media Project
'Exactly the sort of video we were looking for. One gets the sense that these young women feel betrayed, misled, and deceived by media role models, and that they want to tell their stories so that others won't experience the same consequences.' - Ranny Levy, Coalition for Children's Quality Media
'The perfect stimulant for thought and conversation. The search for unobtainable perfection that accompanies growing up female in the U.S. is a serious problem. PicturePerfect provides an opportunity to begin addressing that problem.' - Terry Burant, Rethinking Schools
'Tizzano gives us the tools to dissect and question the media that parade these idealized women's bodies before us, causing harm to real women (and men) in the process.' - Cinematheque at the Cleveland Institute of Art
'A thoughtful documentary that addresses the inner conflicts many women deal with and a fine discussion starter, which offers important encouragement towards greater media literacy. Recommended. Three stars.' - Video Librarian
Citation
Main credits
Tizzano, Carol (film director)
Tizzano, Carol (film producer)
Other credits
Videography, Jesse Epstein, Carol Tizzano, Jane Winslow; editors, Jesse Epstein [and 4 others]; music, Larry Marotta.
Distributor subjects
Adolescence; Body Image / Obesity / Eating Disorders; Fanlight Collection; High School Use; Media Studies; Psychology; Social Work; US and Canadian Broadcast Rights; Women's Health IssuesKeywords
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[MUSIC PLAYING]
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I started thinking,
I am so ugly.
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I have the biggest
nose in the universe.
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I totally don\'t look like
how I\'m supposed to look.
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I got very tall, very
fast in high school.
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I hit about 5\' 8\"
when I was 15 or so.
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But my father was 6\' 4\", my
mom was 5\' 11\", my brother
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was 6\' 2\".
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So at home I\'m the
midget, to the guys
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in school I\'m the Amazon.
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I remember as a
young girl, my mother
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would tell me that
oh, your nose is not
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as wide throughout
the bridge here,
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because when you were a baby
I faithfully shaped your nose.
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She told me that each day,
two or three times a day,
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she\'d take my nose and
she\'d pinch in the middle.
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I had no personality.
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I\'d frown, because I didn\'t
want to wrinkle my look up.
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So I just kind of
stared straight ahead.
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I wasted a lot of good years,
you know, posing like that.
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From the time I was probably
about five years old,
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it\'s been a real
conscious thing.
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Weight has been a
part of my life daily.
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I think about the fact
that, for at least 25 years,
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every single day of my
life the way that I look
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has been an issue.
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I\'ve gone through phases
where I think there\'s
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something wrong with my body.
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I think I need to
tone my thighs.
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I need a smaller stomach.
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And then I start thinking
now, why do I think that way?
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Do I think that way because I
really don\'t like the way I am?
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Or do I think that way
because I\'m comparing myself
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to the image of the
perfect female body
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that we get so
much in the media?
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And these pictures
are airbrushed.
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These are not even real people.
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And we\'re trying to live up to
something that\'s not even real.
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We can never be that.
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[MUSIC PLAYING]
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Sex and glamour sell very
well, because everybody
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wants the fantasy life.
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The way women and
girls are shown in ads
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is very unrealistic.
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Everything is just so perfect.
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And in the real world
it\'s not like that.
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They\'re using her
to sell the product.
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That\'s done over and over again.
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She looks very seductive.
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They\'re in there and they\'re
not wearing a lot of clothes.
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With her hair tussled like
that, it\'s a very sexual pose.
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Or they\'re in some
awkward position.
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With the bare
shoulder, it kind of
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gives you the idea that
she has no clothes on.
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They always had women
cling on to men,
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and had women
showing their bodies.
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And it is so far removed
from what real women really
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look like.
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You have to have long legs.
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You\'ve got to have
perfect breasts.
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You have to have
really nice hips.
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You have to have
that perfect look.
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Plus the fact that the
product is never upfront.
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But I still don\'t see the jeans.
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That\'s like, whatever
happens to the jeans.
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Men in ads are usually
doing something functional.
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They\'re working, busy.
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But women are always frivolous,
and all they\'re thinking about
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is, how do I look?
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And how can I get
this man involved
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in my sexuality or my bedroom?
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As a way of saying that that
is what we having to best.
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It\'s like, if we
take our clothes off,
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and if we show a little
bit of skin here and there,
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that is our best
characteristics.
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That\'s a put down right there,
because everybody in the world
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don show it, don\'t have to show
their bodies for attention.
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This is in teen magazines.
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I\'m not about Ken
Hauser, some magazine
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that you would expect to find
these types of sexual images.
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You never see a beer commercial
with a bunch of gorgeous men
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surrounding an
average looking girl.
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As a matter of fact, you never
see an average looking girl.
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So I think they should have
like a pack of underwear
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like shown, not the
woman, because they\'re not
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selling the woman.
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The women don\'t
come with underwear.
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[MUSIC PLAYING]
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When I was in the 6th--
like 6th through 9th grade,
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my mother subscribed to
Teen Magazine for us.
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I referred to that
magazine all the time.
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I really believed them,
and read them all the time,
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and it was like the Bible.
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Well, I like to
read Teen Magazine.
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And I know that so many
people in our school library
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read these magazines,
spend their study halls
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poring over these magazines.
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And I always have those by
me, and I think to myself,
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this is how I want to look.
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This is what I want to be like.
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I want to be thin.
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I want people to look at me.
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They tell you that
you need a boyfriend.
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They tell you that
you have to worry
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about your dieting, your skin.
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The image of girls on TV with
all their expensive clothes
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and perfectly done hair,
and everything like that,
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that no one can look like.
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Nobody can live up to that.
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Wow.
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You know, she\'s so pretty.
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What\'s wrong with me?
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Because nobody has their
own personal staff waiting,
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except for these people.
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When I was a child,
I do remember
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looking at magazine ads
rather for beauty products,
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and thinking--
seeing the model--
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and looking and thinking,
well, if I use that, maybe I\'ll
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look like her.
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I never saw a girl that even
in Clearasil commercials,
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that had any zits or anything.
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They were always
perfect, skinny,
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perfect hair, three hour
makeup job, whole nine yards.
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I\'ve never seen anybody
that looks like anybody I\'ve
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ever known in a magazine ad.
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We also have YM.
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That\'s another one that always
has the boyfriend articles.
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And there\'s an article in
there about cosmetic surgery,
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talking about if you\'re
unhappy with your flaws,
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there is no other
alternative cosmetic surgery
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for a teenager.
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I mean, I would even
consider plastic surgery.
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They\'re talking about
your nose, getting
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thinner thighs, your jaw line.
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Although I do have friends
that have seriously
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considered cosmetic
surgery, whether it be
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a breast implant or a nose job.
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I was saying, as soon
as I have enough money
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this nose is going.
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I think that they
should read more
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about self-esteem, and about
how building their inner self
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can make them more beautiful
than any cosmetic surgery.
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But then it was like, you
know, this is how I look.
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They shouldn\'t see me as
this mask I put on every day.
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So I\'m more concerned
about what\'s
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inside than what\'s outside.
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Women of color are
very rarely portrayed
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in mainstream magazines, if
they\'re portrayed at all.
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The media has definitely
excluded people of color.
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When it comes to
African-American women,
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the standard is still is
near white as possibles.
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It\'s usually the long
hair and the light skin.
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Had eyes, hazel eyes.
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They have a very
European look to them.
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I think it should be
dark skinned women too,
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because they\'re not the only
African-Americans out there.
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There has always been a lot
of pressure on women and girls
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to look beautiful.
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I think that pressure has
increased over the years
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with the media focusing
so much on certain types.
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They don\'t focus
on anything that
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might really help a teenage girl
who\'s confused about herself.
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They don\'t show
women right on video.
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In video, women, they
just seem to be like toys.
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It\'s like a decoration,
a side show or something.
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Young women who are on these
videos, and black women,
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are just they are
showing the bodies
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and showing what most black
men say they admire the most.
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And that\'s the hips and the
thighs, and the buttocks.
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And we have girls who are
actually taking pictures
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with just their butts
showing, no faces, nothing.
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Just show me that behind.
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I never heard a guy degrade
women the way they do,
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until these rap stars came out.
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And the guys at my
school, in particular,
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they used to say, hi,
how are you doing.
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And now they feel it\'s OK to
call you a whore or a bitch
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or anything like that.
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And most of the girls agree.
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They\'ll see it like, if a guy
says to him, it\'s just OK,
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he\'s addressing me.
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That would be me,
the ho, the female.
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And white girls it
may be the same thing.
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And it might be the
breast, or it just
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might be the length of the legs.
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Or it might be the hair.
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Whatever body parts, we\'re
still all done the same way.
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We\'re kind of chopped up.
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And this is what\'s
important on you.
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You\'ve got nice breasts.
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You got nice, long legs.
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You\'ve got the hair.
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You\'ve got this.
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And so-- black women seem
to have bought into it also.
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I think I get a little
embarrassed watching
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certain videos, when they like
the women into these total slut
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figures that are just parading
around for male attention.
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I get really embarrassed,
especially if I\'m around a guy,
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watching these videos.
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It\'s like, I don\'t want to
see these women like this.
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[SINGING] Come on.
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Let\'s talk about sex, baby.
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Let\'s talk about you and me.
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Let\'s talk about all the good
things and the bad things
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that make me.
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Let\'s talk about sex.
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Let\'s talk about sex.
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Let\'s talk about sex.
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I think girls anymore feel
more obligation than they maybe
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did to have sex, maybe more
than they did in say, the 50s,
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because in the videos on TV,
everywhere it\'s boyfriend, sex.
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End of story.
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You\'re looking for
acceptance from your peers.
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And that usually means sex
in one way, shape, or form.
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I remember growing up and the
sexual pressures put on me,
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where my friends were
having sex, and I wasn\'t.
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But yet we would go out and
like scope out the guys.
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And I was not a sexually
experienced younger girl.
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And I had a friend
who teased me a lot.
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And it really put a
lot of pressure on me.
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I think a middle
ground for girls
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would be to make educated
decisions about whether
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or not to have sex.
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The media shows sex with no
consequences, for one thing.
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The way that women
are portrayed,
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they\'re either virginal and
innocent, which means good,
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or they\'re sexual and
maybe assertive about it,
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and that\'s bad.
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And so you either are a good
girl or you\'re a bad girl.
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Our sexual identity has to
do still with the black woman
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and-- somehow we\'re more
sensual, or sensuous, or more
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ripe or ready to be had.
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I think the
stereotypes that they
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have placed on Latin
women in the media
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are that we are
seen as obnoxious.
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We are seen as loud in the way
we speak and the way we dress,
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in the way we associate
with other people.
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And that we are basically
sexually willing.
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Women are tramps,
because they have sex.
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You know, there\'s a name
for a girl like that.
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Slut.
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Men are studs because
they have sex.
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And I want you to have all
the girlfriends you wish.
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You what?
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After all you are a
handsome young bachelor.
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You should be going
out every night.
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The media definitely has
put the idea in our heads
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that sexuality is based
on physical appearance.
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Sometimes I think it
is important to be
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pretty so people like you, and
people get attracted to you.
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Wow, you look good
enough to show off.
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There\'s a lot more
pressure for girls,
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like, if they\'re
going to a party,
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they get kind of,
what should I wear?
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What should I do?
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How do I look?
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You look fine.
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I was a failure
from the beginning,
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with attractiveness
issues in that respect.
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I wore thick glasses,
because I had
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such severe near-sightedness.
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I grew up in the
late 50s, early 60s.
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And that was the emphasis.
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Look good so the guy will
notice you and take you out.
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And as a result I didn\'t
date at all in high school.
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And I thought that I was just
the most horrible thing that
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could have ever been.
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There is that concept that an
emotionally developed woman
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can revel in her sexuality.
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And I don\'t disagree with that.
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But at what point are you
reveling in your sexuality,
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and then, when does that
turn into that\'s all
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you think you have to offer?
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I mean, for sex to
be good, you have
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to think of yourself
as a person.
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And that this is
something important,
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that you\'re important.
00:14:25.310 --> 00:14:30.406 align:middle line:90%
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There used to be a time
when I could give you
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a list of everything I thought
was wrong with my body.
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My arms are too long.
00:14:36.360 --> 00:14:38.940 align:middle line:90%
My shoulders are too broad.
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But none of that
bothers me anymore.
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People who look at me
initially have ideas about me,
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and they don\'t even know me.
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They think that, because I\'m a
woman of size, that I\'m stupid.
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I\'m unclean.
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That I won\'t work as
hard as a skinny person.
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And I know that there are
people who judge me by that,
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and don\'t even bother
to get to know who I am.
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Just about everybody I
know is either on a diet,
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gonna be on a diet,
has been on a diet.
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And I can\'t say that
I\'m not included.
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I mean, I\'ve done my
fair share of diet.
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But that stopped a
few years back too.
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All of my friends
think they are too fat,
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and then they\'ve
got to lose weight.
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And they\'re trying
different exercises.
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But none of them are really fat.
00:15:32.550 --> 00:15:35.298 align:middle line:90%
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We go next to the mirror.
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We go next to each other.
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We see who\'s wider.
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And she\'s always
skinnier, and she always
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makes me feel like,
I\'m skinnier than you.
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You\'re going to lose weight.
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And stuff like that.
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And I don\'t like it.
00:15:49.580 --> 00:15:52.262 align:middle line:90%
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Sometimes it might
have been easier
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to be a boy, because, well, they
don\'t get picked on as much,
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and people don\'t really talk
about boy\'s weight or anything.
00:16:02.030 --> 00:16:04.660 align:middle line:90%
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I have a friend named
Kianna that is overweight.
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And everybody makes fun of her.
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Being a kid at school
it was horrendous.
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I mean, I\'ve heard them all.
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Stuff like, you sit on a
rainbow and all the color
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would come out.
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Or stuff like, you kind
couldn\'t fit in your house.
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Or you\'ve lied down in
bed and it would collapse,
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her bed would collapse.
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You know, I was called
everything but my name.
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But I have seen
her eyes tear up.
00:16:38.600 --> 00:16:46.160 align:middle line:90%
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You could be like 130, 135, and
this could be fat for people.
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And it\'s a scary thing.
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And I think people have
a very unrealistic idea
00:16:55.310 --> 00:16:57.872 align:middle line:90%
of what an appropriate way is.
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I\'ve had people look at me
and say, oh, what are you?
00:17:00.080 --> 00:17:01.940 align:middle line:90%
A size 4?
00:17:01.940 --> 00:17:04.280 align:middle line:90%
Must weigh about 105 pounds?
00:17:04.280 --> 00:17:06.170 align:middle line:90%
I weigh 145 pounds.
00:17:06.170 --> 00:17:07.609 align:middle line:90%
I\'m 5\'10\'\'.
00:17:07.609 --> 00:17:11.180 align:middle line:84%
Why on earth would I be
a healthy human being
00:17:11.180 --> 00:17:13.180 align:middle line:90%
weighing 105 pounds?
00:17:13.180 --> 00:17:20.069 align:middle line:90%
00:17:20.069 --> 00:17:22.020 align:middle line:90%
High school.
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You could go into the
ladies room at lunchtime,
00:17:24.720 --> 00:17:28.800 align:middle line:84%
and they\'d be lined up
to throw up their food.
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I had friends who
started smoking
00:17:31.890 --> 00:17:34.620 align:middle line:84%
because they heard that when you
quit smoking, you gain weight.
00:17:34.620 --> 00:17:37.200 align:middle line:84%
So they assumed that if
they started smoking,
00:17:37.200 --> 00:17:38.400 align:middle line:90%
they would lose weight.
00:17:38.400 --> 00:17:41.280 align:middle line:84%
All the cheerleaders were
pretty and cute and thin.
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So that\'s what I wanted to be.
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And it really made
me look into myself,
00:17:47.040 --> 00:17:50.340 align:middle line:84%
and think, what can
I do to change myself
00:17:50.340 --> 00:17:53.220 align:middle line:90%
so I would be as good as them?
00:17:53.220 --> 00:17:55.950 align:middle line:84%
So I started not
eating, and I started
00:17:55.950 --> 00:17:59.820 align:middle line:84%
exercising all the time,
and started losing weight.
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I had a friend in eighth
grade who had anorexia.
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And she had to go
to the hospital
00:18:04.090 --> 00:18:06.600 align:middle line:84%
and have all this kind
of stuff done to her
00:18:06.600 --> 00:18:08.730 align:middle line:90%
to get her to stop it.
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She went from a size nine,
I think, to a size two.
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And the sad thing, everybody
told her she looked way better,
00:18:17.160 --> 00:18:18.720 align:middle line:90%
despite her anorexia.
00:18:18.720 --> 00:18:21.420 align:middle line:84%
My eating disorder
started, actually,
00:18:21.420 --> 00:18:23.400 align:middle line:84%
I think when I was
in sixth grade.
00:18:23.400 --> 00:18:25.530 align:middle line:84%
The thoughts going into
my head started when
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I was about in sixth grade.
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And actually, I started
getting really thin probably
00:18:30.240 --> 00:18:32.280 align:middle line:84%
in eighth grade,
where I wouldn\'t eat
00:18:32.280 --> 00:18:33.690 align:middle line:90%
and I would pass out.
00:18:33.690 --> 00:18:36.810 align:middle line:84%
And then really thin
in 9th and 10th grade,
00:18:36.810 --> 00:18:38.700 align:middle line:90%
where I was like 92 pounds.
00:18:38.700 --> 00:18:43.620 align:middle line:84%
As it went on, people would
say, oh, you look really good.
00:18:43.620 --> 00:18:47.400 align:middle line:84%
But as it went on further
and I got really thin,
00:18:47.400 --> 00:18:51.450 align:middle line:84%
people would say things like,
oh, there\'s that skinny girl.
00:18:51.450 --> 00:18:54.410 align:middle line:84%
Oh, God, does she
look disgusting.
00:18:54.410 --> 00:18:57.310 align:middle line:84%
But I didn\'t care, because
I was still thinner,
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and people were
giving me reaction.
00:19:00.100 --> 00:19:02.470 align:middle line:84%
And then I couldn\'t
do anything about it.
00:19:02.470 --> 00:19:05.470 align:middle line:84%
And I didn\'t care what
people thought anymore,
00:19:05.470 --> 00:19:08.530 align:middle line:84%
because I thought, this
is better than being fat.
00:19:08.530 --> 00:19:10.325 align:middle line:90%
I will never be fat again.
00:19:10.325 --> 00:19:16.980 align:middle line:90%
00:19:16.980 --> 00:19:20.250 align:middle line:84%
When I was overweight
by 60 pounds,
00:19:20.250 --> 00:19:23.760 align:middle line:84%
I was surrounded
by images of women
00:19:23.760 --> 00:19:28.680 align:middle line:84%
in the media, women in
the movie industry, that
00:19:28.680 --> 00:19:30.750 align:middle line:90%
were always thin, thin, thin.
00:19:30.750 --> 00:19:34.770 align:middle line:84%
And Mary Tyler Moore in
her little pant suits,
00:19:34.770 --> 00:19:39.755 align:middle line:84%
and her perky little body, it
was very demoralizing to me
00:19:39.755 --> 00:19:42.380 align:middle line:84%
to know that I could never wear
one of those pretty little pant
00:19:42.380 --> 00:19:43.232 align:middle line:90%
suits.
00:19:43.232 --> 00:19:50.470 align:middle line:84%
[SINGING] You might
just make it after all
00:19:50.470 --> 00:19:54.250 align:middle line:84%
Even the mothers in
sitcoms, there are all thin.
00:19:54.250 --> 00:19:57.030 align:middle line:84%
This is supposed to be a
mother who\'s had six kids,
00:19:57.030 --> 00:19:58.680 align:middle line:90%
and what size is she?
00:19:58.680 --> 00:19:59.870 align:middle line:90%
That can\'t happen.
00:19:59.870 --> 00:20:02.620 align:middle line:84%
You can look at any
teenage based magazine,
00:20:02.620 --> 00:20:05.380 align:middle line:84%
and you cannot look in the
back without seeing a million
00:20:05.380 --> 00:20:07.420 align:middle line:90%
and one teen diets.
00:20:07.420 --> 00:20:09.700 align:middle line:84%
And it gave this
quick little article
00:20:09.700 --> 00:20:12.520 align:middle line:84%
about how you can
quickly lose 10
00:20:12.520 --> 00:20:16.270 align:middle line:84%
pounds before your prom,
which is totally unrealistic,
00:20:16.270 --> 00:20:18.260 align:middle line:90%
you know.
00:20:18.260 --> 00:20:19.720 align:middle line:90%
But I really believed them.
00:20:19.720 --> 00:20:22.930 align:middle line:84%
I\'ve lost 40 pounds,
and my abs are hard.
00:20:22.930 --> 00:20:25.270 align:middle line:84%
Every time I see
those commercials,
00:20:25.270 --> 00:20:30.310 align:middle line:84%
and I see the way that
women value themselves
00:20:30.310 --> 00:20:33.760 align:middle line:84%
based on how much they
weigh, I can relate.
00:20:33.760 --> 00:20:37.000 align:middle line:84%
For most of my life it\'s
made me feel inadequate.
00:20:37.000 --> 00:20:39.370 align:middle line:84%
And that, if I could
just look somewhat
00:20:39.370 --> 00:20:45.820 align:middle line:84%
like they look, then somehow
I would be more acceptable.
00:20:45.820 --> 00:20:48.910 align:middle line:84%
And unfortunately, not just
two others, but to myself
00:20:48.910 --> 00:20:53.860 align:middle line:84%
I was watching TV, and
this obnoxious Jenny Craig
00:20:53.860 --> 00:20:57.880 align:middle line:84%
commercial came, and
there was a lady.
00:20:57.880 --> 00:21:02.050 align:middle line:84%
And she held up these
big old pants over her.
00:21:02.050 --> 00:21:06.460 align:middle line:84%
And said, she lost all
this weight in three weeks.
00:21:06.460 --> 00:21:08.260 align:middle line:90%
And that\'s hard to believe.
00:21:08.260 --> 00:21:11.890 align:middle line:84%
I think that the
media knows that women
00:21:11.890 --> 00:21:14.230 align:middle line:90%
do carry a lot of insecurity.
00:21:14.230 --> 00:21:17.410 align:middle line:84%
And that, if they can
reach those women,
00:21:17.410 --> 00:21:20.655 align:middle line:84%
then they\'re going to want to
change themselves in some way.
00:21:20.655 --> 00:21:26.946 align:middle line:90%
00:21:26.946 --> 00:21:28.320 align:middle line:84%
But you can turn
on the TV to see
00:21:28.320 --> 00:21:31.920 align:middle line:84%
one woman after another,
usually with the same body type.
00:21:31.920 --> 00:21:36.460 align:middle line:84%
So they\'ve just skipped over
a whole world of people.
00:21:36.460 --> 00:21:37.430 align:middle line:90%
I am psyched.
00:21:37.430 --> 00:21:39.675 align:middle line:90%
This made me feel so good.
00:21:39.675 --> 00:21:40.600 align:middle line:90%
My butt got smaller.
00:21:40.600 --> 00:21:41.433 align:middle line:90%
M waist got smaller.
00:21:41.433 --> 00:21:42.410 align:middle line:90%
My thighs got smaller.
00:21:42.410 --> 00:21:43.830 align:middle line:90%
I can fit in my shorts now.
00:21:43.830 --> 00:21:47.370 align:middle line:84%
I\'ve lost inches, which
is my problem area.
00:21:47.370 --> 00:21:50.140 align:middle line:84%
I went down like
four dress sizes.
00:21:50.140 --> 00:21:53.250 align:middle line:84%
I feel so much
better about myself.
00:21:53.250 --> 00:21:55.480 align:middle line:84%
OK, the hair needed
a little change.
00:21:55.480 --> 00:21:56.740 align:middle line:90%
Nothing crazy, it\'s different.
00:21:56.740 --> 00:21:59.160 align:middle line:84%
And it was like this
[CLAXON] my hair.
00:21:59.160 --> 00:22:00.100 align:middle line:90%
Not a huge change.
00:22:00.100 --> 00:22:01.630 align:middle line:90%
And it smells great.
00:22:01.630 --> 00:22:04.850 align:middle line:90%
Now I feel boo-boop-be-doop.
00:22:04.850 --> 00:22:07.850 align:middle line:90%
[MUSIC PLAYING]
00:22:07.850 --> 00:22:46.137 align:middle line:90%
00:22:46.137 --> 00:22:48.720 align:middle line:84%
I wanted to start wearing makeup
when all the other girls were
00:22:48.720 --> 00:22:50.760 align:middle line:90%
wearing makeup in sixth grade.
00:22:50.760 --> 00:22:53.145 align:middle line:84%
And my mother absolutely
would not let me do it.
00:22:53.145 --> 00:22:56.490 align:middle line:84%
I am 11, and I just started
wearing a little bit of makeup
00:22:56.490 --> 00:22:57.750 align:middle line:90%
this year.
00:22:57.750 --> 00:22:59.730 align:middle line:84%
When I was a sophomore
she just said,
00:22:59.730 --> 00:23:02.220 align:middle line:90%
whatever, gave me free reign.
00:23:02.220 --> 00:23:05.700 align:middle line:84%
And started wearing all the
makeup, lipstick, eyeshadow,
00:23:05.700 --> 00:23:09.570 align:middle line:84%
eyeliner, mascara, blush,
foundation, everything.
00:23:09.570 --> 00:23:11.910 align:middle line:84%
I didn\'t wear a lot of
make up in high school,
00:23:11.910 --> 00:23:14.940 align:middle line:84%
just because I couldn\'t find
any makeup in high school.
00:23:14.940 --> 00:23:19.350 align:middle line:84%
So there was the shower
first, then the mousse
00:23:19.350 --> 00:23:22.170 align:middle line:84%
in the hair, then the
makeup, then the blow
00:23:22.170 --> 00:23:26.190 align:middle line:84%
dryer, then the curling
iron, and then the clothes.
00:23:26.190 --> 00:23:29.550 align:middle line:84%
And usually I would
have to give myself
00:23:29.550 --> 00:23:32.970 align:middle line:84%
a minimum of an hour
and a half to get
00:23:32.970 --> 00:23:36.630 align:middle line:84%
ready to go to work or
to do anything else.
00:23:36.630 --> 00:23:37.546 align:middle line:90%
14.
00:23:37.546 --> 00:23:39.890 align:middle line:90%
I think, young.
00:23:39.890 --> 00:23:41.580 align:middle line:84%
When I started
wearing makeup, it
00:23:41.580 --> 00:23:43.110 align:middle line:84%
was because I wanted
to feel older.
00:23:43.110 --> 00:23:45.090 align:middle line:90%
I always wanted to be older.
00:23:45.090 --> 00:23:50.200 align:middle line:84%
I wanted to-- I always
wanted to look cool.
00:23:50.200 --> 00:23:53.930 align:middle line:84%
It can make some of
your features stand out.
00:23:53.930 --> 00:23:56.040 align:middle line:84%
You know, here I am,
a teenager, and I want
00:23:56.040 --> 00:23:57.900 align:middle line:90%
to start wearing some makeup.
00:23:57.900 --> 00:24:01.770 align:middle line:84%
And I go to the store, and I\'m
looking up and down a shelf,
00:24:01.770 --> 00:24:05.900 align:middle line:84%
and I see the foundation
or concealer in deep.
00:24:05.900 --> 00:24:08.010 align:middle line:90%
So I buy deep.
00:24:08.010 --> 00:24:11.350 align:middle line:84%
And somebody\'s idea
of deep is very odd,
00:24:11.350 --> 00:24:13.760 align:middle line:90%
because I put this on.
00:24:13.760 --> 00:24:16.370 align:middle line:84%
I\'m looking at it under
the light going, deep?
00:24:16.370 --> 00:24:18.260 align:middle line:90%
This is not deep.
00:24:18.260 --> 00:24:20.630 align:middle line:84%
I just wanted to go
into whoever designs
00:24:20.630 --> 00:24:22.070 align:middle line:84%
this, whoever
names these colors,
00:24:22.070 --> 00:24:24.290 align:middle line:90%
and go, take a look at me.
00:24:24.290 --> 00:24:25.220 align:middle line:90%
I\'m deep.
00:24:25.220 --> 00:24:28.010 align:middle line:84%
And I\'m not even half as
deep as it\'s about to get.
00:24:28.010 --> 00:24:30.560 align:middle line:84%
There are women out there
a lot deeper than this.
00:24:30.560 --> 00:24:34.610 align:middle line:84%
Like my one friend, when we go
out, say I\'d call her at 5:00
00:24:34.610 --> 00:24:36.800 align:middle line:90%
and say, let\'s go out at 6:00.
00:24:36.800 --> 00:24:40.790 align:middle line:84%
At 7:30 she calls me,
and is almost ready.
00:24:40.790 --> 00:24:42.860 align:middle line:84%
Pertaining to women,
I think but they\'re
00:24:42.860 --> 00:24:47.060 align:middle line:84%
trying to say, if you look
like this, if you wear this,
00:24:47.060 --> 00:24:49.766 align:middle line:84%
if you wear this make up,
you\'re going to have success,
00:24:49.766 --> 00:24:51.140 align:middle line:84%
and you\'re going
to be beautiful,
00:24:51.140 --> 00:24:53.680 align:middle line:84%
and you\'re going
to get attention.
00:24:53.680 --> 00:24:56.017 align:middle line:90%
[SINGING] Long, beautiful hair.
00:24:56.017 --> 00:25:00.226 align:middle line:84%
Shining, gleaming,
streaming, flaxen, waxen.
00:25:00.226 --> 00:25:02.000 align:middle line:90%
Here baby, there mamma.
00:25:02.000 --> 00:25:03.888 align:middle line:90%
Everywhere daddy, daddy.
00:25:03.888 --> 00:25:04.388 align:middle line:90%
Hey.
00:25:04.388 --> 00:25:07.376 align:middle line:90%
00:25:07.376 --> 00:25:11.358 align:middle line:84%
I want it long, straight, curly,
fuzzy, snaggy, shaggy, ratty,
00:25:11.358 --> 00:25:11.858 align:middle line:90%
matty.
00:25:11.858 --> 00:25:14.846 align:middle line:84%
Knotted, polka dotted,
twisted, beaded, braided.
00:25:14.846 --> 00:25:17.750 align:middle line:90%
00:25:17.750 --> 00:25:19.500 align:middle line:84%
We also have a big
problem in the blacker,
00:25:19.500 --> 00:25:21.870 align:middle line:84%
the African-American
community, still with our hair.
00:25:21.870 --> 00:25:24.150 align:middle line:84%
We haven\'t gotten over
this hair business.
00:25:24.150 --> 00:25:26.350 align:middle line:84%
It\'s either good
hair or bad hair.
00:25:26.350 --> 00:25:28.770 align:middle line:84%
And usually, if a girl is
describing another girl,
00:25:28.770 --> 00:25:30.430 align:middle line:84%
they say, oh,
she\'s got bad hair.
00:25:30.430 --> 00:25:31.650 align:middle line:90%
Oh, she\'s got kinky hair.
00:25:31.650 --> 00:25:36.459 align:middle line:84%
She\'s-- got some real
bad, worse than mine.
00:25:36.459 --> 00:25:38.250 align:middle line:84%
And this is what they\'re
saying in private.
00:25:38.250 --> 00:25:42.450 align:middle line:84%
As a young woman, I can
remember experiencing
00:25:42.450 --> 00:25:48.060 align:middle line:84%
a lot of envy of
other black women
00:25:48.060 --> 00:25:53.070 align:middle line:84%
who were my age who
had straight hair.
00:25:53.070 --> 00:25:55.260 align:middle line:84%
I have friends when I was--
my kids were growing up,
00:25:55.260 --> 00:25:57.509 align:middle line:84%
and they started putting
those chemicals straighteners
00:25:57.509 --> 00:26:00.060 align:middle line:84%
on their daughter\'s hair
at the age of three, four,
00:26:00.060 --> 00:26:01.300 align:middle line:90%
before school.
00:26:01.300 --> 00:26:07.260 align:middle line:84%
I had to use very
primitive equipment,
00:26:07.260 --> 00:26:11.940 align:middle line:84%
once my hair was
dry, to straighten
00:26:11.940 --> 00:26:14.370 align:middle line:90%
the kinks in my hair.
00:26:14.370 --> 00:26:19.260 align:middle line:84%
It\'s a reality that
we\'ve kept very secret.
00:26:19.260 --> 00:26:22.030 align:middle line:90%
But it\'s a reality.
00:26:22.030 --> 00:26:24.600 align:middle line:84%
So little girls grow up
knowing that something\'s not
00:26:24.600 --> 00:26:27.720 align:middle line:84%
right with this hair, and you
have to go through torture
00:26:27.720 --> 00:26:30.210 align:middle line:90%
to get it fixed.
00:26:30.210 --> 00:26:34.830 align:middle line:84%
The period when blacks
were wearing afros
00:26:34.830 --> 00:26:39.720 align:middle line:84%
was a wonderful period, because
it gave African people a chance
00:26:39.720 --> 00:26:45.480 align:middle line:84%
to expose themselves
to everybody as to what
00:26:45.480 --> 00:26:51.105 align:middle line:84%
the reality of the
texture of their hair.
00:26:51.105 --> 00:26:53.300 align:middle line:84%
[SINGING] Barbie, you\'ve
got it all together.
00:26:53.300 --> 00:26:55.910 align:middle line:84%
How come you always
know what to do.
00:26:55.910 --> 00:26:59.226 align:middle line:84%
Barbie, you\'ve got
it all together.
00:26:59.226 --> 00:27:03.285 align:middle line:90%
I wanna come and live with you.
00:27:03.285 --> 00:27:05.660 align:middle line:84%
And I know when I was younger,
and I had my little Barbie
00:27:05.660 --> 00:27:08.810 align:middle line:84%
dolls, and I looked at these
Barbie dolls and thought, OK.
00:27:08.810 --> 00:27:11.940 align:middle line:84%
And I grow up, I want big
boobs and a little waist.
00:27:11.940 --> 00:27:13.730 align:middle line:84%
[INAUDIBLE] hips and
everything like that.
00:27:13.730 --> 00:27:16.050 align:middle line:84%
We would really try to
dress like Barbie did.
00:27:16.050 --> 00:27:18.050 align:middle line:84%
We just wanted to be just
like our Barbie dolls.
00:27:18.050 --> 00:27:20.840 align:middle line:84%
We played with our Barbie dolls
for hours and hours and hours,
00:27:20.840 --> 00:27:23.930 align:middle line:84%
and realized it was
kind of like a let down.
00:27:23.930 --> 00:27:25.660 align:middle line:84%
We don\'t fit in
Barbie\'s clothes.
00:27:25.660 --> 00:27:30.128 align:middle line:84%
And we don\'t look as good
as she does in her clothes.
00:27:30.128 --> 00:27:33.422 align:middle line:84%
[SINGING] Barbie lives
in a plastic apartment
00:27:33.422 --> 00:27:38.402 align:middle line:84%
with her own
elevator and a phone.
00:27:38.402 --> 00:27:41.390 align:middle line:84%
Barbie\'s got a boyfriend
with a sun tan.
00:27:41.390 --> 00:27:47.380 align:middle line:84%
And whenever Ken phones
Barbie, she\'s home.
00:27:47.380 --> 00:27:49.600 align:middle line:90%
This is a first Barbie doll.
00:27:49.600 --> 00:27:55.120 align:middle line:84%
And my mom gave it to me when
I was probably in kindergarten.
00:27:55.120 --> 00:27:59.080 align:middle line:84%
I have either 11
or 12 Barbie dolls.
00:27:59.080 --> 00:28:03.070 align:middle line:84%
I had a Barbie motorhome, a
Barbie dream house, a Barbie
00:28:03.070 --> 00:28:06.040 align:middle line:84%
furniture and bedroom
sets, and Barbie bathroom.
00:28:06.040 --> 00:28:08.440 align:middle line:90%
I had Barbie game show.
00:28:08.440 --> 00:28:11.590 align:middle line:90%
I had the hot dog stand.
00:28:11.590 --> 00:28:13.330 align:middle line:90%
I had the motorhome too.
00:28:13.330 --> 00:28:15.550 align:middle line:84%
She had all this
beautiful stuff.
00:28:15.550 --> 00:28:19.630 align:middle line:84%
And, you know, you\'ve got to
imagine you have enough stuff.
00:28:19.630 --> 00:28:24.910 align:middle line:84%
Having a Barbie doll made
me feel like I had somebody,
00:28:24.910 --> 00:28:26.760 align:middle line:84%
you know, like was this
is my little friend.
00:28:26.760 --> 00:28:28.006 align:middle line:90%
Barbie was cool.
00:28:28.006 --> 00:28:30.260 align:middle line:84%
I wish they talked
shopping in school.
00:28:30.260 --> 00:28:33.990 align:middle line:84%
Come on, Stacey, I\'ve waited my
whole life ti hear you speak.
00:28:33.990 --> 00:28:35.662 align:middle line:84%
Don\'t you have anything
relevant to say?
00:28:35.662 --> 00:28:37.075 align:middle line:90%
Don\'t ask me.
00:28:37.075 --> 00:28:38.452 align:middle line:90%
I\'m just a girl.
00:28:38.452 --> 00:28:40.180 align:middle line:90%
Ha ha.
00:28:40.180 --> 00:28:43.870 align:middle line:84%
My concept of a doll was
something entirely different,
00:28:43.870 --> 00:28:49.330 align:middle line:84%
more like an infant, or a
very young female child,
00:28:49.330 --> 00:28:53.800 align:middle line:84%
not Barbie type
with long eyelashes
00:28:53.800 --> 00:28:56.830 align:middle line:84%
and all kinds of makeup
and fancy hairdos,
00:28:56.830 --> 00:29:00.550 align:middle line:84%
and all the other gimmicks
that were used along
00:29:00.550 --> 00:29:01.840 align:middle line:90%
with the Barbie doll.
00:29:01.840 --> 00:29:03.380 align:middle line:90%
It\'s sold.
00:29:03.380 --> 00:29:05.790 align:middle line:84%
And I wish she would
go out of existence.
00:29:05.790 --> 00:29:09.790 align:middle line:84%
I think it\'s time for
it to be shredded.
00:29:09.790 --> 00:29:11.370 align:middle line:84%
I wish they would
make a fat Barbie.
00:29:11.370 --> 00:29:12.130 align:middle line:90%
I really do.
00:29:12.130 --> 00:29:15.957 align:middle line:90%
It would totally make my day.
00:29:15.957 --> 00:29:18.540 align:middle line:84%
If I had children or a daughter,
I will buy her a Barbie doll,
00:29:18.540 --> 00:29:22.080 align:middle line:84%
I think, because-- well, mainly
because I liked them so much.
00:29:22.080 --> 00:29:24.150 align:middle line:84%
If my daughter
wanted a Barbie doll,
00:29:24.150 --> 00:29:28.080 align:middle line:84%
I would get it, just
because I know that that one
00:29:28.080 --> 00:29:31.860 align:middle line:90%
thing doesn\'t set the standard.
00:29:31.860 --> 00:29:35.870 align:middle line:84%
I like to use Barbie dolls
to make up their lives,
00:29:35.870 --> 00:29:37.820 align:middle line:84%
because you can\'t
make up your own life.
00:29:37.820 --> 00:29:43.250 align:middle line:84%
But you can show what you would
like your life to be like.
00:29:43.250 --> 00:29:47.090 align:middle line:84%
It\'s always boys on the
commercials for bikes or toys
00:29:47.090 --> 00:29:48.950 align:middle line:84%
that make you
become independent.
00:29:48.950 --> 00:29:53.240 align:middle line:84%
Unstoppable Huffy
Streetser rides again.
00:29:53.240 --> 00:29:54.920 align:middle line:90%
Racing cars, aggressive toys.
00:29:54.920 --> 00:30:00.950 align:middle line:90%
00:30:00.950 --> 00:30:03.380 align:middle line:84%
And the girls have their
little dolls to play with,
00:30:03.380 --> 00:30:07.270 align:middle line:84%
or there are kitchen
sets to cook with.
00:30:07.270 --> 00:30:09.350 align:middle line:84%
[SINGING] I love the
way you make me feel.
00:30:09.350 --> 00:30:11.631 align:middle line:90%
You\'re so real.
00:30:11.631 --> 00:30:13.130 align:middle line:84%
And there\'s a big
difference in that
00:30:13.130 --> 00:30:15.980 align:middle line:84%
it\'s already at that young age
they\'re starting preparing them
00:30:15.980 --> 00:30:17.030 align:middle line:90%
for roles.
00:30:17.030 --> 00:30:19.220 align:middle line:84%
Like some of our most
classic cartoons,
00:30:19.220 --> 00:30:21.710 align:middle line:84%
like Snow White and
the Seven Dwarfs.
00:30:21.710 --> 00:30:24.530 align:middle line:84%
I mean, she took
care of the dwarves.
00:30:24.530 --> 00:30:27.200 align:middle line:84%
She wanted the Prince to
come and take her away.
00:30:27.200 --> 00:30:30.410 align:middle line:84%
Cinderella wanted to go the
ball to meet the prince.
00:30:30.410 --> 00:30:32.600 align:middle line:84%
The Little Mermaid
wanted to become a person
00:30:32.600 --> 00:30:34.550 align:middle line:90%
so she can meet prince Eric.
00:30:34.550 --> 00:30:35.750 align:middle line:90%
Stuff like that.
00:30:35.750 --> 00:30:39.590 align:middle line:84%
My little sister, she likes
the fairy tale princesses
00:30:39.590 --> 00:30:43.450 align:middle line:84%
like Jasmine and Pocahontas and
Little Mermaid and Cinderella.
00:30:43.450 --> 00:30:46.590 align:middle line:84%
These cartoon characters,
they have the tiniest waist.
00:30:46.590 --> 00:30:50.120 align:middle line:84%
They have the shapeliest
figure, the long flowing hair.
00:30:50.120 --> 00:30:52.490 align:middle line:90%
And she is really pretty.
00:30:52.490 --> 00:30:54.780 align:middle line:84%
I mean, people cannot
look like that.
00:30:54.780 --> 00:30:56.385 align:middle line:90%
You have your looks.
00:30:56.385 --> 00:30:58.460 align:middle line:90%
Your Pretty face.
00:30:58.460 --> 00:31:04.190 align:middle line:84%
And don\'t underestimate the
importance of body language.
00:31:04.190 --> 00:31:07.430 align:middle line:84%
They have the perfect
shape, the perfect hair.
00:31:07.430 --> 00:31:11.490 align:middle line:84%
And always, always, real
big, beautiful eyes.
00:31:11.490 --> 00:31:11.990 align:middle line:90%
And--
00:31:11.990 --> 00:31:14.930 align:middle line:84%
She\'s got these eyes that
just-- and this hair.
00:31:14.930 --> 00:31:16.280 align:middle line:90%
Wow, and her smile.
00:31:16.280 --> 00:31:17.540 align:middle line:90%
Ah.
00:31:17.540 --> 00:31:20.940 align:middle line:84%
And the little girls
worship these characters.
00:31:20.940 --> 00:31:22.360 align:middle line:90%
She\'s pretty.
00:31:22.360 --> 00:31:27.710 align:middle line:90%
And I saw her on a movie.
00:31:27.710 --> 00:31:30.390 align:middle line:84%
They have her dolls,
their sheets, their music.
00:31:30.390 --> 00:31:33.750 align:middle line:90%
[INAUDIBLE]
00:31:33.750 --> 00:31:35.270 align:middle line:90%
Snow White.
00:31:35.270 --> 00:31:39.620 align:middle line:84%
They want to be these girls,
and you can never be that.
00:31:39.620 --> 00:31:45.380 align:middle line:84%
I think they\'re portrayed
as what American culture has
00:31:45.380 --> 00:31:49.820 align:middle line:84%
engraved in many of our
brains as, you know, perfect.
00:31:49.820 --> 00:31:53.560 align:middle line:90%
She dressed pretty.
00:31:53.560 --> 00:31:57.330 align:middle line:84%
What do I think that
media does to women
00:31:57.330 --> 00:32:01.230 align:middle line:84%
and their image of themselves
is one, it puts us in a box.
00:32:01.230 --> 00:32:02.880 align:middle line:90%
And this is where we fit.
00:32:02.880 --> 00:32:04.970 align:middle line:90%
And that\'s where we are to stay.
00:32:04.970 --> 00:32:07.550 align:middle line:84%
And I think too many
of us buy that box,
00:32:07.550 --> 00:32:09.870 align:middle line:84%
and that\'s how we live
most of our lives.
00:32:09.870 --> 00:32:13.070 align:middle line:84%
It would give these
girls the impression
00:32:13.070 --> 00:32:15.890 align:middle line:84%
that this is the way that
you\'re supposed to look,
00:32:15.890 --> 00:32:18.680 align:middle line:84%
and that this is the way that
you\'re supposed to dress,
00:32:18.680 --> 00:32:21.860 align:middle line:84%
and this is the way that
this are supposed to be.
00:32:21.860 --> 00:32:23.660 align:middle line:84%
And if it\'s not like
that, that there\'s
00:32:23.660 --> 00:32:25.524 align:middle line:90%
something wrong with them.
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There\'s got to come a point
where a woman says to herself,
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I\'m not going to compare
myself to these images anymore.
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I think that you can market
things to real people
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if you portray real people.
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As far as billboards and books
and all kinds of media go,
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they need overweight women.
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They need women
who look their age.
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I\'d say to any teenagers,
especially girls,
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if you\'re subscribing
to a magazine,
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if you\'re watching
too much TV, just
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turn it off and cancel
your subscription.
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Only Victoria\'s Secret
can make sport this sexy.
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I really don\'t think the
institution of television
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is becoming anything worthwhile.
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I think it needs to go
through a lot of changes.
00:33:13.800 --> 00:33:15.790 align:middle line:90%
It could be very beneficial.
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But I think, maybe get
involved in the media,
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and try and make it
better in your own way.
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There\'s nothing wrong
with wanting to be sexy.
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There\'s nothing wrong with
wanting to be beautiful.
00:33:26.174 --> 00:33:28.590 align:middle line:84%
And there\'s nothing wrong with
wanting to change something
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about yourself.
00:33:29.250 --> 00:33:31.670 align:middle line:90%
That\'s not bad.
00:33:31.670 --> 00:33:33.390 align:middle line:84%
It\'s hating yourself
that\'s wrong.
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It\'s saying that
this is the standard,
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this one thing is the standard,
and I don\'t measure up.
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It\'s difficult to keep
your children away
00:33:41.010 --> 00:33:45.870 align:middle line:84%
from TV and magazines, and
all the beautiful images
00:33:45.870 --> 00:33:46.730 align:middle line:90%
that they see.
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So the only way I think is
by living an exemplary life,
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and keep talking.
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That\'s exactly what I\'m just
going to explain to my son
00:33:57.120 --> 00:33:59.841 align:middle line:90%
when he gets older.
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There\'s going to be so much
stuff in the media regarding
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women, how they have to be
just right and perfect, to have
00:34:05.350 --> 00:34:06.300 align:middle line:90%
perfect bodies.
00:34:06.300 --> 00:34:08.690 align:middle line:84%
And it\'s not just
what it\'s all about.
00:34:08.690 --> 00:34:14.449 align:middle line:84%
To show women as active,
as opposed to object,
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that doesn\'t bother me.
00:34:15.781 --> 00:34:17.254 align:middle line:84%
We just wear our
softball shirts.
00:34:17.254 --> 00:34:19.709 align:middle line:90%
We just wear our softball shirt.
00:34:19.709 --> 00:34:21.673 align:middle line:90%
We don\'t play with Barbie dolls.
00:34:21.673 --> 00:34:24.087 align:middle line:90%
We don\'t play with Barbie dolls.
00:34:24.087 --> 00:34:25.879 align:middle line:84%
We just play with
bats and balls.
00:34:25.879 --> 00:34:28.292 align:middle line:84%
We just play with
bats and balls.
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[INAUDIBLE]
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I think it\'s great to have
my daughter playing sports.
00:34:36.080 --> 00:34:38.360 align:middle line:84%
This has just been a
wonderful opportunity for her
00:34:38.360 --> 00:34:40.297 align:middle line:90%
to gain confidence in herself.
00:34:40.297 --> 00:34:41.630 align:middle line:90%
You\'re like, oh, I hit the ball.
00:34:41.630 --> 00:34:42.320 align:middle line:90%
I hit the ball.
00:34:42.320 --> 00:34:43.489 align:middle line:90%
I\'m really excited.
00:34:43.489 --> 00:34:46.270 align:middle line:84%
You have a really great
feeling in your stomach.
00:34:46.270 --> 00:34:49.142 align:middle line:84%
And when you get excited,
you run really fast.
00:34:49.142 --> 00:34:50.600 align:middle line:84%
The thing for Emily
that I\'m trying
00:34:50.600 --> 00:34:55.190 align:middle line:84%
to do as a mother of a daughter
is give her the opportunity
00:34:55.190 --> 00:34:58.550 align:middle line:90%
to be a feisty spirit.
00:34:58.550 --> 00:35:00.710 align:middle line:84%
Part of it is the fact
that I take karate.
00:35:00.710 --> 00:35:04.460 align:middle line:84%
And I look at my
body now as to what
00:35:04.460 --> 00:35:07.820 align:middle line:84%
it can do, instead of just this
image, this two dimensional
00:35:07.820 --> 00:35:08.780 align:middle line:90%
image.
00:35:08.780 --> 00:35:11.690 align:middle line:84%
I mean, when I broke a
board for the first time,
00:35:11.690 --> 00:35:14.570 align:middle line:84%
and I looked down at my
legs, the legs I used to say
00:35:14.570 --> 00:35:16.280 align:middle line:90%
were-- they\'re heavy.
00:35:16.280 --> 00:35:18.470 align:middle line:90%
And they\'re just unattractive.
00:35:18.470 --> 00:35:20.010 align:middle line:90%
And I\'m built like a linebacker.
00:35:20.010 --> 00:35:25.250 align:middle line:84%
Well, these heavy linebacker
legs of mine broke a board.
00:35:25.250 --> 00:35:27.050 align:middle line:84%
These heavy linebacker
legs of mine
00:35:27.050 --> 00:35:28.490 align:middle line:90%
could save my life some day.
00:35:28.490 --> 00:35:31.100 align:middle line:84%
I was always in motion
when I was a little kid.
00:35:31.100 --> 00:35:33.470 align:middle line:84%
It was really basically
when I hit adolescence
00:35:33.470 --> 00:35:38.300 align:middle line:84%
that I took a major
slowdown, which is something
00:35:38.300 --> 00:35:40.195 align:middle line:90%
I don\'t want to see for Emily.
00:35:40.195 --> 00:35:41.570 align:middle line:84%
And I see myself
as a person more
00:35:41.570 --> 00:35:44.360 align:middle line:90%
in motion than just a picture.
00:35:44.360 --> 00:35:46.100 align:middle line:90%
So I like my body now.
00:35:46.100 --> 00:35:49.340 align:middle line:84%
I don\'t think that there
are the opportunities yet
00:35:49.340 --> 00:35:50.930 align:middle line:90%
for women that there could be.
00:35:50.930 --> 00:35:54.020 align:middle line:84%
I think women should be
included in pro sports and coed
00:35:54.020 --> 00:35:55.250 align:middle line:90%
sports along with men.
00:35:55.250 --> 00:35:57.620 align:middle line:84%
I don\'t see any reason
why that can\'t happen.
00:35:57.620 --> 00:36:02.360 align:middle line:84%
Advice that I would give to
most young women and young men
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together would be education.
00:36:04.640 --> 00:36:06.380 align:middle line:84%
I think it\'s a
message for all teens,
00:36:06.380 --> 00:36:09.620 align:middle line:84%
whether they\'re African
American or Caucasian or Asian,
00:36:09.620 --> 00:36:14.180 align:middle line:84%
one way of combating being
objectified or being used
00:36:14.180 --> 00:36:18.860 align:middle line:84%
is to be able to have
skills and knowledge.
00:36:18.860 --> 00:36:22.742 align:middle line:84%
I think that I would try
to raise any child I had,
00:36:22.742 --> 00:36:26.510 align:middle line:84%
a little girl or a little boy,
with music from the get go,
00:36:26.510 --> 00:36:29.780 align:middle line:84%
just because that teaches
them to be creative.
00:36:29.780 --> 00:36:31.400 align:middle line:90%
Don\'t be a second hander.
00:36:31.400 --> 00:36:34.790 align:middle line:84%
Don\'t live your life
through other people.
00:36:34.790 --> 00:36:40.430 align:middle line:84%
I guess I just kind of would
think to myself I am who I am,
00:36:40.430 --> 00:36:42.740 align:middle line:90%
and just be myself.
00:36:42.740 --> 00:36:47.060 align:middle line:84%
Don\'t worry about your
weight or what you look like.
00:36:47.060 --> 00:36:51.770 align:middle line:84%
Beauty is something that
I find hard to describe.
00:36:51.770 --> 00:36:55.510 align:middle line:84%
Beauty is something
that comes from within.
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I know the character of a lot of
people I come in contact with.
00:37:01.490 --> 00:37:06.140 align:middle line:84%
And perhaps a lot of people
wouldn\'t identify them
00:37:06.140 --> 00:37:08.300 align:middle line:90%
as beautiful people.
00:37:08.300 --> 00:37:10.280 align:middle line:90%
But I find them very beautiful.
00:37:10.280 --> 00:37:11.390 align:middle line:90%
I love their smiles.
00:37:11.390 --> 00:37:15.210 align:middle line:84%
I love to look in their
eyes when I talk to them.
00:37:15.210 --> 00:37:20.420 align:middle line:84%
And I have some
very caring friends.
00:37:20.420 --> 00:37:21.950 align:middle line:90%
And I think they\'re beautiful.
00:37:21.950 --> 00:37:24.490 align:middle line:90%
00:37:24.490 --> 00:37:28.270 align:middle line:90%
That\'s the standard I use.
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