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I Won't Go
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I was born in this house. I will never leave this house. I'm pretty happy.' - Oli Truss. Meet Oli Truss. She's an eccentric ex-headmistress in her nineties, who now lives isolated and housebound in her condemned country cottage, her companions being a cat, a dog, and a small Shetland pony named 'Baby'. The cottage has rats, the floor is littered with animal dropppings, cobwebs decorate the windows, and maggots squirm in leftover food in the kitchen but Oli won't hear of leaving her home. Happy on her own, she gets up every morning around 7:15 for a biscuit, and a cup of tea - when she can find her cup, that is. As the water runs nonstop in the sink, Oli wonders why the empty water pot on the counter is not boiling, admitting that 'I can't always think quickly like I used to'. She accepts the bare minimum of help from home care workers on the first floor, as the second floor is now off limits to everyone. At what point is further intervention mandatory? Should she be allowed to live life her way? Not easily forgotten, 'I Won't Go' paints an intimate and representative portrait of countless older adults whose only 'crimes' are growing old, and wanting to keep their independence-at all costs. Oli's story brings home the complex issues of self-neglect, competence and capacity, the innate desire for independence, and the right to live and die at home with dignity. A must-see for all social, legal, law enforcement, mental health, and geriatric services providers.
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Main credits
Hurcombe, Georgina (Producer)
Hurcombe, Georgina (Director)
Other credits
Camera, Loretta De Wolff, Justin Brown; editors, Henry Dalton, Tony Palmer, John Rosser; composer, Alex Baranowski.
Distributor subjects
Elder Abuse; Attitudes about Aging; Social IssuesKeywords
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[music]
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Oli’s house was never what you to
call a conventional classroom.
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When I was a child, she used to
teach me maths after school.
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And I can remember dreading a
visit to the strange old lady of
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her cluttered, smelly cottage,
and animals surrounding around.
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Fifteen years later,
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Oli was living just the same. So I
decided to pay her another visit
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to find out about her unusual lifestyle.
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[music]
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[sil.]
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I don’t stay in bed.
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I get up about half past seven.
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And then after I’ve put my housecoat on,
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I make a cup of tea and have
a biscuit or something.
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[sil.]
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Uh-oh, where’s my cup? I don’t mind
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if I don’t see anyone.
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Doesn’t make any difference to me. I
agreed I do like having visitors…
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But I don’t have them
too… I’m… I’m quite happy
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not having them too long.
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In case it effects my,
my… my mental outfit.
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I can’t always think very
quickly now, like I used to.
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[sil.]
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[music]
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The house is unlocked when we arrived
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and in a West State than I’d imagined. All she
told me that she’d wanted to be up and ready.
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But as we chatted in the kitchen, I
could see that even everyday things,
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like making a cup of tea
and become a huge task.
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No, it’s not boiling.
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What’s wrong with it?
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[sil.]
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What’s wrong? Oh, it’s empty.
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It won’t, it won’t come on.
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[sil.]
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What’s gone wrong with it?
Off. Wait a minute…
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Oh, oh, that one. On. No.
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[sil.]
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Oh, oh, my head.
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I’m happy on my own. It doesn’t worry me.
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Not having too many people round.
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If they… they don’t come to see
me, I don’t let it get me down.
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[sil.]
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Isn’t this a lovely color?
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I love black and white.
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I think this is lovely. It will go
nicely on a black. Oh, yes, look.
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Oh, that’s really lovely.
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[sil.]
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I was eight years old when I used to go to Oli’s
for tutoring. The house is so cluttered up
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with old place and bits of rubbish that
she would often end up having to teach me
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in the summer house. I remember, when
I got all my times tables correct,
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all he would give me sweets which my
mother would then make me throw away
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for being years out-of-date.
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As I sat down with Oli in
her belated breakfast,
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I started to ask her about her
life before I’d known her.
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I wanted to find out where she’d come from and
why she is still living in such an isolated
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and dangerous home.
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I don’t mind if I don’t go out. It
doesn’t worry me. I like my home.
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I have no desire whatsoever to go away.
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Umm… Going places, no. I
love staying at home.
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This is my house. I was born in this house.
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And I will never leave it. And
as long as I’ve got the dog,
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and the pony, and the cat.
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She loves her animals and
her cats called Pony.
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I don’t know where she
got the name pony from.
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And because she looks after her, Pony, baby.
And baby is allowed to come into the house
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and sort of roam about and do
anything it really wants to.
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Would you say Baby’s like
one of your friends?
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Yes, she is. She is. She’s lovely.
She’s a sweet little thing.
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I’d be very upset if anything… anything
happened to her. Does she keep you company?
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Oh, yes, she does. Baby,
would you like a sandwich?
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Anything t give you? Baby,
do you want a biscuit?
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Do you want a biscuit?
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The door’s always open and
her hearing isn’t that,
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isn’t that good. I mean, she has her scares down
there where she’s had people snooping around,
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and peeping through windows, and frightened
the living daylights out of her.
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[sil.]
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Oli, you could go and live
somewhere really nice now?
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Well, I’m not happy about, mine’s all right here. you
mustn’t say it’s not nice. Umm… I love the views,
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and I love it here. ‘Cause you
could, you could sell this house
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for a couple of million pounds, because of the land. Oh, I could, because
I’ve got the land as well. So I’ve got that on top of it, you see.
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I could if I wanted to,
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but won’t. I’m perfectly happy.
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I’m perfectly all right. I enjoyed my life.
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I’m thankful for what I’ve got.
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[sil.]
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She hoards, she… she never
throws anything away.
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And so she cluttered up each room. And
as each room have become unusable,
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so she’s moved out into the next room.
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She was living there with her little dog.
And you couldn’t…
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You didn’t have access to the drawers.
There were empty milk bottles
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or half empty milk bottles everywhere, and
bits of food, obviously there were rats.
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It was overrun with rats.
Stench was just indescribable.
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The rats had eaten through the
wiring which is one of the reasons
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there was no lighting or teaching over there.
You’d see a rat come in here, go through there…
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they used to come there and they’d go
through that window. And I didn’t know
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that the window you could see
the, around the wood. I didn’t.
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I saw them everywhere and
like something bit me in bed.
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I couldn’t believe that only could be living in
what seemed to be a clearly dangerous environment.
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And yet be so adamant for her independence.
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I wanted to know what help if any she
was getting. And I found out that
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she’s geo daily visit from Liz Barnett,
a carer from her local council.
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We do a four on, four of rota.
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So it’s me for four days, and then we have
another colleague she’s on four days.
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And we do it like that. And how
many old people do you think a day?
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About seven. Right? Yeah.
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What… what do your duties and role? Our duties
are just to make her bed, empty her comode,
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put her slippers on, wash up, do
any little jobs that need doing.
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But personal care on Oli at all.
Oli’s bath upstairs, isn’t it?
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That’s right. So she can’t get upstairs. No
way, no. So umm… how does Oli bath well?
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She’ll have a strip wash in
her kitchen which she usually
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does on her own. She’s usually
done all that before we get here.
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Can I sit down here?
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I must sit down.
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So she’s a quite independent lady,
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very independent.
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[sil.]
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It’s something I didn’t ever
think that could happen to me.
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Did you, did you not want to carer?
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Well, I’m… I’m… I’m… I’m
not all that emphatically
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all that impressed with them, but
nevertheless, they do help me a lot.
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Umm… What do you say that Oli’s house is
like a typical of person’s house, so…
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Yes, yeah, and it’s nice
that they’re allowed to stay
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in their own homes. ‘Cause a lot of them are
sort of, you know, bunged off into a care home.
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And some are happy with it.
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You really didn’t want to go into home. Is it
like, you’d like you’re independent or so?
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I want to be myself. I don’t
want to sit with people.
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So what do you do when you just?
Well, we’ve done that.
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Oh, I do a lot. I do cooking.
I love cooking.
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Even… even uh… cook for Oli to eat.
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No, no cooking, she does all
her own cooking. Just sort of,
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you know, just make the place a little
bit tidy, sort of clean up in general.
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I think so umm… hotel food.
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And umm… all these what this
meant to clean up (inaudible).
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We come in and if we see anything
like that then we sort of,
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clean it up as much as we can,
but she has a cleaner come in
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once every fortnight, on a Saturday.
Does all her cleaning.
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That’s maggots something that (inaudible).
Left over food.
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Left over foods.
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Some things I’m not going to say on camera.
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What can you (inaudible). You
can yeah, I’ll clean it.
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And it’s always left for me.
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Maggots are they?
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What kind of things that they help you
with? Well, they haven’t got very, not…
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There’s not a lot of work being done.
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It’s the com… having the companionship
with them, is a lot. Yeah. I enjoy it.
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She’s a sweetie, she really is.
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[sil.]
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Aren’t we, Oli? Are you all right
out there? Oh, yeah, yeah.
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You all right out there? I’m okay.
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Now there’s a headline,
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\"Dad caught Rex with a
PVC-clad girl on dog lead.\"
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Sounds rather funny, doesn’t it? Fetish.
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Well, I don’t think much of that. She
isn’t. Do you want a cup of tea?
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I would really like a coffee.
Coffee. Yes, please.
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We’re not supposed to get involved in our job.
You know, we’re supposed to just come in,
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do a job, but you can’t help it. You
know, you get… get attached to them.
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You’re not supposed to.
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What do you think about umm… Oli living
conditions and things? Pretty, pretty poor.
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Pretty poor. Yeah, no, not very safe.
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We’ve been banned from going upstairs, to
the toilet up there. We can’t, you know,
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empty commodes up there
because of it’s unsafe.
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Umm… She can’t get up the stairs anyway
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so she just likes to be
independent living at home.
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Do you want to, would you get
somewhere out there? No. No, not me.
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No, not at all.
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I couldn’t do that.
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Maggots in there.
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This is a furnace about Oli’s
situation surprise me.
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She was clearly overwhelmed by the
amount of work needed to be done.
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But at the same time, she’s
been very attached to Oli.
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[music]
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You can have a holiday
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for… for nine pounds, five, fifty.
I don’t know where you would go.
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Heaven knows. Can’t be much
of it, can it, really.
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[sil.]
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[music]
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Liz Barnett is gone for the day, Oli’s talk returned
once again to the past and her life she had known.
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It was to bring up some
interesting discoveries.
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I know lots and lots of
people would have no idea
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that I, that I had a husband
that was a Pools winner
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and a big one. I tend to gasp about my life
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because it has been. But the worst
thing was that room the Pools.
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And I tried to forget that.
And I said, \"I don’t want to
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hear anymore about it.\"
Reluctantly Oli told me that
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in 1953, her husband Johnny had struck
lucky on the little woods fools.
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It turned out they’d won over 35,000 pounds
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equivalent today of just under a million.
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Oli’s life would never be the same again.
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I know it was a nice lot of money,
but it did not bring us happiness.
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It was, it was really, uh… it was awful.
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As gossip spread of Oli’s big pools win,
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Oli found her life changing. And she
retreated into the safety of her own home.
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We tried to keep it quiet, you see.
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But once the village knew it, oh,
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the village gossip was awful. If you
went out anywhere in the evening,
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you had nasty… nasty things said to you.
I wouldn’t go to anything
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I was invited to because I would get it
all thrown at me about… about the money.
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I would’ve given anything in the
world, to have given that money away.
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I… I didn’t want it. Johnny wanted to leave
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the small village of Fairfield and
have the millionaire’s lifestyle.
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Oli, however was perfectly content to stay
in the family home and continue teaching.
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I was doing my teaching. And I
would, I could cope with everything.
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I had him. But he had that. And
it made all the difference to us.
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It completely ruined our
marriage, our marriage.
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If we had stayed as we were,
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our marriage would’ve been all right, but
because of all this money and because of…
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Oh, everything changed.
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And my life marriage, my
marriage, went, after that.
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Eventually, umm… he went
and we never saw him.
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I never saw him again. He,
his, he came in one morning,
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and packed a bag and there
was no… no row or anything.
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And I never saw him again.
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[music]
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As Oli only began to reveal her
past to me from her difficult life
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in the village to her husband’s abandonment.
I felt like I was finally gaining
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some understanding of what could make
someone choose this solitary lifestyle.
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But Oli didn’t become a recluse overnight.
Now on her own,
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she decided to pursue the career that I would end
up knowing her best for becoming a headmistress.
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That was my life,
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that was all I thought about
nothing else, nothing mattered.
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I was determined I was going to have
a school. I’m not staying like this.
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[music]
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And as younger day, she taught there a long time, and then she
sought a semi-retired, and then she taught them from her own notes.
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I think you must be lonely.
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You know, if you’re living like that at that age and she
hasn’t got any family, she didn’t have any children, did she?
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So I would imagine having the children come into her
house like that was a way of filling it with life.
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And you know, the things that perhaps she missed out
on because she didn’t have children of her own.
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I… I think soon as she stopped,
I think the depression hit her.
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I think really is teaching the children having the children
in the land, the mothers in the mad, kept her gonna,
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gave her a reason to go on. And I think
she just lost some of that reason.
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I loved my young.
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That was all that mattered.
Nothing else mattered.
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That’s all I’ve got, that…
No promise (inaudible).
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No, no, got no one.
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They aren’t, they aren’t
filming at the minute.
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I dread it.
00:20:25.000 --> 00:20:29.999
I dread it every time. Georgie tells me about
something. Oh, no, don’t let me look at it.
00:20:30.000 --> 00:20:34.999
I don’t want to see it. You
don’t worry if she (inaudible).
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Well, well, what about the all the other
ones you got then? They’re lovely.
00:20:40.000 --> 00:20:44.999
What do the others look like? (inaudible). Well, you’ve got Maggie,
have you? Yeah, I got it. You get the most glamorous person.
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Oh, that’s very nice of you to say.
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Despite the state of Oli’s home,
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appearances seem to matter a great deal to
her. And as we taught, an old photograph
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in the corner of her living room gave a rare
glimpse of her past life as a beautiful
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and glamorous young lady. When I
met Oli’s neighbors Sue Pearce,
00:21:10.000 --> 00:21:14.999
she surprised me by mentioning that not only was
she a friend, but she was also on his beautician.
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Hello, lovely to see you. That is nice.
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I live down the road. So I often
visit only usually at the weekends
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and… and help her with her nails.
Yes, they’re very bad.
00:21:30.000 --> 00:21:34.999
I make her up and put glitter on her.
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And we might choose clothes. And she said
you think this new, you think of that.
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And actually she has got very good taste.
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Yes, I love the way your hair is done.
Thank you. Okay, it feels it’s not better.
00:21:50.000 --> 00:21:54.999
It’s just and a little bit (inaudible).
They are, I agree.
00:21:55.000 --> 00:21:59.999
Your caress come in and look after
you today. Oh, they’ve been today.
00:22:00.000 --> 00:22:04.999
They’ve been today. They don’t do
very much work but… They do bits.
00:22:05.000 --> 00:22:09.999
Well, they do bits. Well,
yes, you’re right.
00:22:10.000 --> 00:22:14.999
She’s just on… And you have to accept her
for how she is as anybody. We all have
00:22:15.000 --> 00:22:19.999
our strange little idiosyncrasies.
Well, have you got anything paler?
00:22:20.000 --> 00:22:24.999
Never mind I’ll be all right.
00:22:25.000 --> 00:22:29.999
Okay. I won’t put it on too
heftily and then it’s just.
00:22:30.000 --> 00:22:34.999
I enjoy her company. She makes me laugh.
00:22:35.000 --> 00:22:39.999
And sometimes she makes me despair.
But on the other hand,
00:22:40.000 --> 00:22:44.999
she’s… she’s happy. She is and everybody else
their own right to live as they want to live.
00:22:45.000 --> 00:22:49.999
Oh, (inaudible) great. It is? Yes. You must
use some. (inaudible). What colour is it?
00:22:50.000 --> 00:22:54.999
It’s sky light. It’s a sky light. Nice too.
00:22:55.000 --> 00:22:59.999
Oh, yes. Just bright (inaudible).
Does… yes.
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As I watched an amazement
00:23:05.000 --> 00:23:09.999
as suit lamb rise in 19-year-old Oli,
the strange scene in front of me
00:23:10.000 --> 00:23:14.999
seemed to sum up so much of Oli’s
eccentric and contradictory nature.
00:23:15.000 --> 00:23:19.999
And if you just take that one (inaudible).
Wanting to let glamorous despite her age,
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wanting to be independent
despite her infirmity,
00:23:25.000 --> 00:23:29.999
needing to be somewhere safe but refusing to
go. Oh, you know, pink is my favorite color.
00:23:30.000 --> 00:23:34.999
I do. I do. I got everything
pink that I can get. Yeah.
00:23:35.000 --> 00:23:39.999
Even the breakfast rum was
done… done with pink.
00:23:40.000 --> 00:23:44.999
Yes. That’s lovely. I couldn’t help
00:23:45.000 --> 00:23:49.999
but feel that the betrayal of Oli’s
husband had never truly escaped her.
00:23:50.000 --> 00:23:54.999
Despite her defiance, she had
retreated further and further
00:23:55.000 --> 00:23:59.999
into her solitary life
with animals and children,
00:24:00.000 --> 00:24:04.999
the only companion she
felt she could trust.
00:24:05.000 --> 00:24:09.999
But of course, for Oli,
she was exactly the way
00:24:10.000 --> 00:24:14.999
she wanted to be.
00:24:15.000 --> 00:24:23.000
[music]
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Living here even sitting out
in this sun like I am today is
00:24:30.000 --> 00:24:34.999
umm… my idea of living a happy life.
00:24:35.000 --> 00:24:43.000
[music]
00:24:45.000 --> 00:24:49.999
What do you think like old people living
by themselves? Well, I don’t know.
00:24:50.000 --> 00:24:54.999
Umm… I really don’t know there
must be probably some people
00:24:55.000 --> 00:24:59.999
that don’t like living
by themselves, but I do.
00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:04.999
Uh… I… I know what it is like living by oneself
but I like it that it’s part of my happy,
00:25:05.000 --> 00:25:09.999
part of my life that is living by myself.
00:25:10.000 --> 00:25:18.000
[music]
00:25:20.000 --> 00:25:24.999
She does live and conventionally.
00:25:25.000 --> 00:25:29.999
What is lovely to Oli? It wouldn’t
be lovely to you, all right.
00:25:30.000 --> 00:25:34.999
Oh, I nearly chocked.
00:25:35.000 --> 00:25:39.999
Oh, he’s not filming that, they are?
He’s not filming it.
00:25:40.000 --> 00:25:44.999
[music]
00:25:45.000 --> 00:25:49.999
Look at that. That’s a, that’s a lens.
00:25:50.000 --> 00:25:54.999
Sorry. That’s a len, a lens, isn’t it?
Lens. Lens. Yeah, yeah.
00:25:55.000 --> 00:25:59.999
It’s a marvel. Well, I… I’ve
never seen anything like it.
00:26:00.000 --> 00:26:04.999
I… I can’t im-I had no idea
that pho-cameras could be
00:26:05.000 --> 00:26:09.999
that expensive and all that!
My word! Whatever have…
00:26:10.000 --> 00:26:14.999
You’ve got everything
on there, haven’t you!
00:26:15.000 --> 00:26:23.000
[music]
00:26:30.000 --> 00:26:34.999
After filming had concluded and the crew
started to back away, I could not help
00:26:35.000 --> 00:26:39.999
feeling a sense that I too was abandoning Oli.
Her claims that she was living as she wanted
00:26:40.000 --> 00:26:44.999
that little to ease my concerns about
the lack of care she’s receiving.
00:26:45.000 --> 00:26:49.999
Despite this,
00:26:50.000 --> 00:26:54.999
I couldn’t help but admire Oli’s undeniable
spirit. And the way she’d overcome
00:26:55.000 --> 00:26:59.999
extraordinary obstacles in her life.
00:27:00.000 --> 00:27:04.999
Oli was truly
00:27:05.000 --> 00:27:09.999
someone unforgettable, a free spirits
determined to keep her independence
00:27:10.000 --> 00:27:14.999
at any cost right to the end.
00:27:15.000 --> 00:27:19.999
You’re happy being independent. (inaudible).
Oh, yes. You wouldn’t want it any other way?
00:27:20.000 --> 00:27:24.999
No, nope. You wouldn’t wanna?
No, no. I want to die here.
00:27:25.000 --> 00:27:29.999
If I’ve I got too, anyway.
00:27:30.000 --> 00:27:35.000
Well, that’s it.
00:27:50.000 --> 00:27:54.999
She looks so young. Is that really?
I think you look really young.
00:27:55.000 --> 00:27:59.999
Yeah. (inaudible) I do. I do.
00:28:00.000 --> 00:28:04.999
Do you believe it? Look at your skin, you haven’t
many wrinkles, have you? You’ve got very good skin.
00:28:05.000 --> 00:28:09.999
(inaudible)
00:28:10.000 --> 00:28:14.999
[music]
00:28:15.000 --> 00:28:19.999
Thank you very much (inaudible).
I’m really love you.
00:28:20.000 --> 00:28:28.000
(inaudible).
Distributor: Terra Nova Films
Length: 28 minutes
Date: 2010
Genre: Expository
Language: English
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